Month: April 2021

This, YOUR day.

This, YOUR day, was created for you to:

Enjoy.

Laugh.

Live.

Love.

Grow.

Stand.

Rejoice.

Seek.

Pray.

Cry.

Carry.

Share.

Sing.

Shout.

This, YOUR day, has many miracles, moments, blessings, choices, awesomeness, testings, trials, thanksgivings, ALL waiting. For you. To make the choice to select and use as you please.

CHOOSE to make this day, YOUR day. God and Life took the time to prepare this, YOUR day, especially for you.

Do NOT allow a rough start, an unkind word, a restless night, circumstances, situations, issues, people, egads people!, to stop you from rejoicing, in this, YOUR day.

You got this. Seize these moments. We know not, beloveds, how many more moments we have.

You got this day. Don’t let this day get you. Get it?….. 🙂

Let’s do this thing, called life.

Be encouraged. I am.

His Friend and yours,

Cassandra REJOICING

Real talk: Don’t allow others burdens, to become yours.

Real talk. We care. Sometimes, too much, it seems.

Nah, not too much. That’s just a lie, from the enemy, to stop us from caring for one another.

Yet, we CAN allow our care, our compassion, to want to get in God’s way, in Life’s way, when they are dealing with those we care for.

We have seen one too many hero movies, I think….lol. We want to swoop in, to save, to keep folk from hurt.

Real talk. Life hurts, at times. Life hurts, due to well…..life just being life.

Time we all stop trying to avoid life’s pain. Growth comes with growing pains. Full stop.

At times, those growing pains comes from things caused by our hands, by the hands of others, by situations, by circumstances.

As we grow, as we know, we do better, we become better, we ARE better. It’s in the WAITING, in the meantime, of life, where we can falter, stumble, fall if not careful.

We see folks we care for faltering, stumbling, falling and want to swoop in, to stop life’s pain for them. We can’t. We have to allow others to stand, for themselves. He/she/they must KNOW, for themselves, that they CAN bear up, they MUST bear up, they MUST stand, endure, fight, scratch, claw and LIVE.

God and Life appreciates our care. Want us to care. To care enough to stay out of THEIR WAY!

And, as you refuse to allow other folk’s burdens, to become yours, also REFUSE to allow someone else’s dark place, to become yours. Continue to rejoice. Continue to dance. Continue to sing. Yes, pray for them. Yes, be a support, as he/she/they will allow. And, if they won’t/can’t care, at a distance, and keep it moving.

Life is short. Be encouraged. NOTHING and NO ONE are too far away from the reach, the love, the care, the compassion, of God and Life. Leave ALL with Him.

Be encouraged.

Keep going.

I go with you.

Cassandra HOPEFUL

Real talk: Since you can’t do anything about it, what are you going to DO with it?

God and Life made us unique.

At times, we fight and kick against the uniqueness called us.

It seems, as if we don’t quite ‘fit’ into this mold or into that thing.

So, we tend to wonder, to wander, to ponder, what to DO with this person called me.

Sadly, people, circumstances, situations know/knew we would have these questions, these ponderings, these musings. And, have tried to convince us to…well, to not BE us.

Outside forces are continually trying to convince us, each of us, to dismiss this awesome, unique, different, amazing, complicated, compelling person, called you, called me.

Too often, we have bent to their will, we have stood on their loud/wrong voices and allowed them to shame us. Shame us to be:

Quiet.

Still.

Unmoving.

Surviving.

Unchanging.

Unforgiving.

Unbending.

God and Life, created us to be WHO WE ARE for a reason.

We are each:

A piece of the puzzle.

An answer.

The answer.

This world can’t function without my me. We won’t make it without your you!

I say all that to again ask this of you, of myself…

Since you can’t do anything about it, what are you going to DO with it?

What are you going to do with the uniqueness called you?

You here now, beloved. What you fixing to DO with the rest of your life?

I DARE you to tell fear to kick some rocks and BE you: No matter what. No matter where. No matter who!

Go!

I go with you. God and Life goes with us all.😎

Cassandra NUFF SAID!

End the day on the right note.

Today was hard.

I stood.

I embraced the suck.

I grew.

I did my best.

I ended the day with a cup of coffee, and two scoops of vanilla ice cream whilst yakking with my twin, God and Life.

How great is that?!

Now that you have done all, end the day on the right note:

Spend some time with you.

Take a breath.

Calla friend.

Make a friend.

Spend some time with God and Life.

Rest

Don’t worry about tomorrow. It will get here when it gets here.

LIVE. Don’t survive.

Be sure to begin, again, on the right foot so that you may end on the right note.

You got this. So, do I 😎

Cassandra ACCOMPLISHED

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Start on the right foot.

Starting the day off on the right foot.

Water drank. Check.

Breakfast. Check.

Mini dance parta. Check.

Bit of bible study. Check.

Sense of humor packed. Check.

So often, we can get started off on the wrong foot. Crabby, from not enough sleep. Hungry, from not getting in breakfast. Annoyed,….*shrug*….just cuz it seems at times.

It’s important to get started on the right foot. Can’t help what the day may bring. We CAN do something about the attitude we bring to the day.

I remind myself of this as have to kick my own hind end for standing on the wrong things, at time.

For instance, the day had been hard. Rightly so. Tough things going on. So, I had ALREADY convinced myself the next day would be impossible and had myself half talked out of showing up, at all, the next day….smh…*sigh*.

Got myself some act right. Stood on solid foundation.

This life is sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo worth LIVING. Keep going. This hard patch will ease up, a bit.

In the meantime, enjoy the hard. Embrace the suck. Take Yikes! and Egads! with you as you learn new things about Life, yourself, others.

I had been fretting about being tired of fighting things alone. Today, I am thankful for having the space to grow and do as I need to. May come a time when I have a house full and wishing I was alone!

Today, we begin again. And, if you make a mis step, begin AGAIN. And, again. Can restart the day as many times as it takes.

Keep going. You got this.

Cassandra TRIUMPHANT TIL SHE TEARS UP SOMETHING OR OTHER….*shrug*….

Keep looking up.

Circumstances. Situations. People. Man, those things can get you to looking down, can’t they?

Looking down, though, may get you whacked upside the head. Best to keep looking UP. Your future is UP. Your dreams are UP. Your circumstances are UP. Your situations are UP.

Only thing looking down gets you is ran over!

Keep looking up. YOU GOT THIS!

No matter what. No matter who. No matter where.

The ONLY way you lose is if you give up. Don’t. NOT QUITE YET.

Try. Just a little longer.

Refuse to give up on you, today. REFUSE to allow Life to let you go without blessing you. REFUSE to let yourself stay silent.

Your life matters. YOU matter. Don’t dismiss your:

Thoughts.

Hopess.

Dreams.

Aspirations.

Daydreams.

Goals.

Plans.

Words.

Desires.

Meanderings.

Wonderings.

This world needs YOU. We need what you have to offer. I can’t do you. You can’t do me. We need each other.

Don’t look at what you have as a small thing. There is only one YOU. How awesome is that?? No substitute for you. No copying you.

Keep your head high. You are doing the best you can. It is ALL that is required. You don’t owe folks, any more than that. You don’t owe yourself, any more than that. You don’t owe loved ones,more than that. You don’t owe God and Life, more than that.

Rest, tonight, knowing you have done your all and your all is ALL that is required.

You got this. Keep doing you. God and Life are proud of you. Be proud of YOU.

His and yours,

Cassandra ACCOMPLISHED

You ARE winning!

If the fight seems impossible, KNOW you are winning.

If you are exhausted and ready to throw in the towel, KNOW you are winning.

If circumstances/situations are laughing at you and telling you ALL is lost, KNOW you are winning.

If God and Life are extra quiet, while the battle rages the loudest, KNOW you are definitely winning.

If you have fought the night, seeming to have lost, risen exhausted, not knowing if you can win the day, KNOW you are winning.

If you reach for love, and love has not yet reached back, KNOW you are winning.

If you have tried, and failed, and tried, and failed, and have tried, yet again, KNOW you are winning.

If you question your efforts, wondering who the heck cares, why the world does it matter, KNOW you are winning.

the enemy, your circumstances, your situations, would NOT be so desperate to get you to give up, if you were not winning.

If you were losing, in fact, as they are trying to convince you of, why the world would they be wasting energy on a lost cause, worthless words, unneeded actions?

Easy answer? You ARE winning.

In the middle of your fight:

Rejoice.

Laugh.

Love.

Rest.

Sing.

Shout.

You are growing, you are LIVING!

The timid souls choose to survive. You have done the hard thing, of LIVING this life. Keep going.

You got this. God and Life has got us.

We got this, yall.

I feel a dance parta coming on. How bout you?

Cassandra FREE

We have come too far to stop now.

Keep going….*sigh*…

We MUST keep going. Too many need our light. We HAVE to stay positive. We HAVE to keep reaching out. We HAVE to keep caring for one another.

Yes, it gets exhausting. Yes, life these past few months makes one want to dive in a bed never to come out except for comfort food and the restroom.

I must admit, I have been arguing with myself, for DAYS. Fussing that what in the holy world can I do to change things in this upside down world?

I ate half a cheesecake, told Yikes! and Egad! to kick rocks as I was tired of this one fighting with that one, this group hating that group.

I want to run around, yelling at the top of my lungs for folks to STOP THIS ALREADY!!!

We are brothers. We are sisters! We are gay. We are straight. We are biracial. We are fifty million things, all at once. But, WE ARE FAMILY!!

We are all we got, people!

How the world, GROWN FOLKS are acting like children and expecting our children to understand, is BEYOND me.

Yet, people, we keep going! We fight. FOR, one another. NOT, against one another.

We can do this thing, called life. We CAN.

TOGETHER.

I can NOT be the only one, shouting into the void.

I REFUSE to quit on us. There is just too much good in us, people!!!!

We are better than this. So much better than this.

Keep going. Someone needs your voice. Someone needs your love.

Praying for us all to get some act right,

Cassandra

Keep going.

Keep going.

Heartbroken.

😥

As a person of color, yesterday’s verdict was NOT justice.

I dare not say more…

Father, I do NOT understand.