Month: July 2025

Living with chronic things: Your limitations do NOT have to limit you.

I have been fighting with vertigo for years.

Unsuccessfully. Frustratingly. Resignedly.

We have become reluctant roommates. We tolerate one another. We fuss with one another.

The one, is forever trying to gain the upper hand, over the other.

There are days, when I raise my hand, in victory. There are other days, when vertigo stands, victoriously, over me. Satisfied.

I used to be terribly discouraged by this. That is no longer true.

The older I grow, the more I understand that limitations do NOT have to limit me.

I can maneuver around them. I can incorporate them into a SUCCESSFUL, JOYFUL, and INSPIRED day.

Life is what WE make it, beloveds. WE choose if we are going to enjoy our day. WE decide if we are going to be a light.

WE determine if we are going to allow chaos to enter and reign in our lives.

Contrary to popular opinion(s), neither Tiktok nor what political party can/does rule our lives, our thoughts and our actions.

WE do that. I don’t say this to lecture. I say this as a reminder, to me first, that we are not some hapless, hopeless dimwits who are being led around by the nose.

Knowing this, we have to have the courage to take the reigns.

Don’t despair over your limitations. You can be, have and do as much, or as little, as you CHOOSE and ACT on. Simple as that.

Currently, vertigo and I are in a death match over who will control the rest of my day. I am going to enjoy my day, regardless.

I just stopped by to encourage someone to keep on keeping on. Starting with me.

Have an amazing rest of today.

asking for A Friend,
Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: We got this!

One step.

One step.

One step.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!

Don’t wait.

If I learned anything from the tornado, beloveds, it was how important it was/is to do things NOW.

Don’t wait.

Don’t worry about lack. Do things. Now. With what you have.

You have more than enough to do SOMETHING. It may not be as much as you would have liked. It will have been something.

Life is short. Get out there and live. With intention. Stop being tossed about because you have not bothered to add your input.

I tell myself these things every day. I share them with you. Not as an admonishment. Just as words that may help some to move.

I used to remain still just because I told myself I didn’t know what to do. I became paralyzed and do nothing.

The aftermath of the tornado got all up in my face and DEMANDED I DO SOMETHING.

Something.

Anything.

Just try, Cassandra!

I began to try. I began to fight. For me. For my dreams. For yours.

I fight. Still. I have to.🤗

🧱. I have walls to knock down. I have doors 🏛🏘 to open. I got thangs to do. As do you.

Don’t wait!

doing thangs,
Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: Okay, um, so like whatcha still doing here after that rousing ask?!😳😎🤣❤🙏🌏🎯

One step.

One step.

One step.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!

Turn your mad/disappointment into positive ACTION.

I was mad.

Thoroughly hacked off.

Got some bad news.

Got some maddening news which made me madder.

At first, I told myself I would spend the rest of the day ticked off.

Then, I looked at the clock:

3:22.

I allotted myself 8 minutes to be as royally ticked off as I’d like. I had a life to live.

I had my mad. I vented. I was highly hacked. I looked at the clock:

3:35. Five minutes past my allotted time. Ha!

I got on with my day. I decided to turn my mad into some pieces.

I am talking to you.

Be encouraged.

asking for A Friend,
Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: Don’t allow mad and disappointment to derail your day, your mood, your life. We got this.

One step.

One step.

One step.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!

Starting again after 50 – Powerful Motivation – #PivotWithPurpose #NewB…

Yay!

I started again, again!

I have wanted to start THIS channel for years. And, years. And, years.

I let fear stop me. I let age stop me. I let doubt stop me.

A tornado stopped by and told me to LIVE.

I chose life.

This is my start. I hope it inspires others to move past their fears.

Life is short.

Please let me know in the comments your thoughts. If you start the video, please allow it to play through to help the Algorithm and give it a comment and like. 😎

This is my needle in a haystack. I must leave it there. Yes, chances are slim to none that MY voice will be received,  heard, reciprocated.

That said, slim can’t meet none if I walk away, eh?

I stopped ’round to encourage someone to keep putting yourself out there. Someone is waiting just for YOU!

Be encouraged.

asking for A Friend,
Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: Beloveds, I am learning HOW to fight for my dreams, IN REAL TIME. Before, I would have allowed myself to wallow in pity.

I would have castigated myself for hoping.  I would have hid in comfort eating.

Now, I allow myself to sit with the disappointment, with the discouragement, with the frustration, with the embarrassment.

Then, I allow that I am one of billions. My needle IS there, though.

I am doing my best to BE a light. Be encouraged. Keep being a light. Someone needs the way lighted home!🤗❤🙏🥰🎯🧱🌍

One step.

One step.

One step.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!

I’m prepared.

I’m prepared for failure.

I’m prepared for success.

I’m prepared for criticism.

I’m prepared for rejection.

I’m prepared for disappointment.

I’m prepared for defeat.

I’m prepared for loneliness.

I’m prepared for setbacks.

I’m prepared for whatever life chooses to throw my way.

I’m prepared, beloveds. I’m preparing. Life happens. Life WILL happen.

I choose to:

Live in the moment.

Live with intention.

Live with joy.

Live with hope.

Live with faith.

I’m prepared to do these things and more.

What are you prepared/ preparing for?

asking for A Friend,
Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: Let’s go!!

One step.

One step.

One step.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!

Don’t be dictated by numbers/algorithms. March to the beat of your own drum.

I went back to making mini motivational videos for Tiktok.

I have enjoyed making them. Yet, I stopped because the Algorithm wasn’t pushing out my content.

Also, the numbers were super low.

Interestingly enough, I found that I could do great numbers by doing nothing other than using a Male’s A1 voice.

I experimented. I even tried making some with my words, with music but no voice over. The success was still minimal.

I asked myself if I would be content forever hiding MY voice just to get noticed for someone else’s.

What’s more important, I asked myself? The attention or sharing ME?

Also, if the words were being SEEN and HEARD, isn’t the message more important than the messenger!

Ah! Great questions. Both can be true.

There is nothing wrong with using what’s available to get our message across.

That said, we also have to be true to ourselves. We have value. We must find the courage to do us until we turn the tide.

Women are not celebrated in the motivational spaces. Folk are used to seeing men hollering epithets and demands into the microphone.

Yes, this form of motivation has it’s place. There is also a place for more quiet reflection. Real talk: I can scream and holler, as necessary, with the best of them.

I have decided to do both. Some of his. Some of mine. My goal is edifying, uplifting and inspiring. So long as the method is based on/in integrity, I am happy trying all kinds of things.

Don’t be dictated by numbers/algorithms, beloveds. March to the beat of your own drum.

asking for A Friend,
Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: 😎

One step.

One step.

One step.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!

That thingie over there: Figuring out the right words to say.

Omg.

Omg!

OMG!!

I NEEDED to know HOW to create a thumbnail for my video. I wanted to use a picture from the video.

I couldn’t figure out what to ask Google or Alexa!!!

I KNEW what I needed. I just didn’t know the RIGHT words to communicate what I NEEDED.

Sounds like the story of my life, eh, God?😁🥰🤣🤗

N-E-Waze, I tried every combination of words, I could think of. I made up new words. I regurgitated words not meant for polite society.

Finally, FINALLY, I figured out I had to export a still image”.

Who knew? Who cares? It worked.

It worked!!

*Cassandra does a jig, tastefully and quietly, so as not to disturb the downstairs neighbors*

I just stopped by to encourage you to continue moving towards your goals.

It’s okay not to know the RIGHT words. Keep moving FORWARD. Keep looking UP. Keep using as many combinations as needed to say what YOU want to say.

Above all, beloveds, remember this:

You are worthy.

You are worth it.

You are soooooooo worthwhile.

asking for A Friend,
Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: You got this!

One step.

One step.

One step.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!

Put a time limit on mad.

I was mad.

Thoroughly hacked off.

Got some bad news.

Got some maddening news which made me madder.

I gave myself 8 minutes to be mad. I ended up needing 13. 😎🤗😁🤣😡😳🥰🙏❤

Don’t waste your life lamenting on the unfairness of life. Life IS unfair, at times.

So what? What are you going to DO when things happen? Pout? Quit? Blame the world?

What good will that solve?

If it won’t do any good, it doesn’t do a hill of beans good to waste too much time carrying on.

Do what you can. Pray. Mitigate. Persevere. Periodt.

I’m thankful for the hard. I was able to learn some tough lessons today. I was able to walk out those lessons IN REAL TIME. Ah, God, why You gotta be so mean?🥰🙏❤😎

Be encouraged. Live out your lessons IN REAL TIME.

asking for A Friend,
Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: We got this.

One step.

One step.

One step.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!

Don’t let disappointment keep you from keeping your promises to you.

I was mad.

Thoroughly hacked off.

Got some bad news.

Got some maddening news which made me madder.

I was tremendously disappointed. Something I had been looking forward to was now no longer available.

At first, I gave into negative thoughts, telling myself this was just another example of life not being fair, The Universe laughing at me, and God allowing all to do whatever.

I had made a coffee date with my twin. I told her I was too disappointed and angry to have coffee.

She said she was disappointed. She had been looking forward to our coffee date. So had I.

Then, I kicked my act right in the behind and told it to get to acting right!

I got some act right. I told sis let’s make our coffee. We had our coffee date.

I’m telling you what I told her:

Do NOT allow any disappointment to keep you from keeping your promises to yourself. Turn the disappointment into something positive/uplifting.

I turned mine into encouraging others, into encouraging sis, into encouraging myself.

Be encouraged, beloveds.

Don’t let disappointment keep you from keeping your promises to you.

asking for A Friend,
Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: Nuff said.

One step.

One step.

One step.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!

The world shall be yours.

You SHALL make your dreams come true.

Please be patient with me as I improve my chops.

I’m trying to make it happen. I’m trying to make a difference.

I hope you enjoy my try.

Have an amazing today. I love you.

asking for A Friend,
Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: What do you dream of? Don’t be afraid to start. If afraid, start anyway. Start anywhere. You will feel like an idiot, at first. That’s okay. The feeling will pass. Leaving you incredibly blessed and at peace with your try.

I believe in you. Believe in yourself.

One step.

One step.

One step.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!