Month: May 2025

What do you do when you can’t write, er, fight your way out?

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Apologies, beloveds.

I have been digging out from under an awful bout of mini what in the fresh hell is this?!😳

Normally, I write my way out. I promised myself that I would encourage folk when feeling the most discouraged. Alas, discouragement has been more determined than I, this past while.

So much so, I considered deleting this blog,  altogether.

Who cares about it, I asked myself?

I do, I answered back. Crap.

I have had to go back and update a good half dozen pieces. Something I have NEVER done in the five years I have been blogging.

Can I admit something? For the first time in forever, beloveds, I didn’t put the world first.

For the first time, beloveds, I allowed myself to sit with myself, to let myself NOT write, to encourage myself to do absolutely nothing and not feel like a big nothing.

I have put all my focus on getting eyeballs on my blog so I can encourage as many as I can. It has been incredibly embarrassing/disappointing/disheartening/discouraging to see almost no fruit of my labor.

I just stopped by to encourage someone to keep on keeping on. You ARE seen. You ARE heard. You ARE valued. Even when it doesn’t appear to be so.

God/The Universe/Life appreciates your every tear, your every effort, your every movement forward.

In the meantime, keep on being good to yourself. I care. If that means anything. So does He.

caring still,

Cassandra
#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: You matter.

One step.

One step.

One step.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!

Don’t fear the storm. BE the storm.

I have been battling bills. Therefore, battling:

Depression.

Frustration.

Anxt.

Ain’t.

I ain’t giving up…lol.

Bills, er, fear has a way of sapping the oomph out of one’s try. Tell your bills to shut up. Tell your fear to kick rocks.

Then, keep moving FORWARD. Keep looking UP. Keep standing on business. Keep standing on FAITH.

This time WILL pass, beloveds. How will it leave you? I plan on being/staying hopeful.

I must admit the silence is awfully loud. I just stopped ’round to encourage you to keep on being about being about it. If for no other reason than to annoy the hell out of fear due to your persistence.🤣🥰

We got this.

Be encouraged.

asking for A Friend,
Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note:

One step.

One step.

One step.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!

Quit when you are done.

Quit when you are done.

Nuff said.

asking for A Friend,
Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: I was doing some thangs. I was tired of doing them thangs. I wanted to quit doing those darned thangs. I kept doing the thangs.

Why?

I wasn’t done yet. 💯🎤👣😘

Quit ONLY when you are done, beloveds. Don’t give yourself permission to give up because it’s too hard or taking too long. Keep trying. Don’t chase the trophy. Pursue the excellence that comes from persistent, perspiring effort.

One step.

One step.

One step.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!

Start a new tradition.

I have been watching a wonderfully entertaining British television show about folk trying to save their businesses.

The main obstacles have been an unwillingness to let go of old things, old ways of thinking, old this, that and everything.

Everyone wanted to stay in their comfort zone. Yet, everyone wanted change/new/different.

No one wanted to compromise. No one was willing to set aside pride/ego to make NEW tradition(s).

I think on why I didn’t move beyond my comfort zone years ago…

I was much like those folk: Stubbornly clinging to traditions long passed their usefulness. I had grown. Life had moved on. I needed to move on with it.

I stayed the same. Holding onto tradition and doing things “that way” simply because that’s the way things had always been done.😳

I’m learning to make new traditions. Don’t be afraid to start a new, beloveds. It’s part of life to do so.

asking for A Friend,
Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: We got this.

One step.

One step.

One step.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!

Just because you can.

Love someone.

Just because you can.

Feed someone.

Just because you can.

Help someone.

Just because you can.

Do something.

Just because you can.

Forgive someone.

Just because you can.

Fight for someone.

Just because you can.

We all need each other. Let’s help one another.

Just because we can.

asking for A Friend,
Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note:  Someone needs to love you have to provide. Please do so. Just because you can.

One step.

One step.

One step.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!

I’m learning how to listen.

I’m learning how to listen.

I’m learning how to really listen. Not just so I can find a place to interject my thoughts and views, but to learn what the other person is trying to say and teach me.

I’m learning to be an ear, beloveds, not just one who waits to have a say.

Life is short. Continue to hear. Continue to listen.

asking for A Friend,
Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: Be encouraged.

One step.

One step.

One step.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!

Living in the present has been such a gift.

Living in the present has been such a gift.

I put in 14 hours of work today. It didn’t seem like worked to me. I have been working as hard as I can on my dreams.

I spent all day encouraging folk, enjoying music and motivational videos, drinking coffee, yakking with fam, enjoying the quiet.

I wish more people understood how precious and short life is. Life is such a gift. Life is full of surprises. I am looking forward to what life has to bring.

Live life in the present. Don’t spend your life looking back at the past or worrying about the future. You can’t change what was. You have no idea what will be. Enjoy your mouth. Enjoy your now.

This day was so wonderful I almost wish I could rewind it. I look forward to tomorrow.

Ah, God.  What do I do with me now?

asking for A Friend,
Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note:  Life is short. What are you doing with yours?

One step.

One step.

One step.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!

Wait, Cassandra!🐥

I feel like a wobbly chickadee as I learn how to wait. Patiently.

Earlier, I had made an expensive purchase. I had been blessed with funds to upgrade my software so I could stop yelling at the laptop. Lately, my purchases have not been going through without a fight.

The screen will show an unsuccessful purchase. Later, I will have checked my account and found that the purchase had been made.

I almost did a dumbsky and tried again “just in case”.

I’ve been working hard on sticking to a decision I have made instead of forever second-guessing myself.

I’m learning HOW to wait. I’m learning. Sure is taking forever, it seems. Ah, God. Why You being soooooooooo slow!

Be encouraged as you wait. Enjoy the sunshine. Remember why you are doing what you are doing.

asking for A Friend,
Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: Be encouraged.

One step.

One step.

One step.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!

Real talk: Don’t quiet quit your dreams.

I’m impatient.

I want change NOW. Right the heckamiah NOW, beloveds. So much so, I quietly quit. Where no one could see but me.

I packed it in. Stealthily.

Then, I wondered what the what would I DO with ME?😳

I’m an encourager. How in the world would I pull off being a silent hater?…hhmmm.

I woke up this morning and good habits got to doing what good habits do.

I got up.

I created some uplifting Tiktoks and Instagram posts. I posted said posts.

I made coffee. I drank said coffee.

I reached out to my support. I asked said support for support.

I got about being about it.

There is NO going back for us, beloveds. We can NOT allow ourselves to go back to easy and comfort zones, when the way gets or seems interminably long/hard.

Be encouraged. The hard is a sure sign we ARE on the right path.

I apologized to myself for the few hours I quietly quit. I am being purposefully loud to hold myself accountable.

We CAN.

We WILL.

We have to.

asking for A Friend,
Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: Keep going. Even when it’s hard. Especially then. Also, don’t be too terribly hard on yourself if you have quietly quit. These are tough times for everyone. This too shall pass. I love you. So does He.

One step.

One step.

One step.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!

It’s okay to admit when we have judged too harshly.

One of my fave NFL commentators made a comment I did NOT like.😡

Mind you, he was giving HIS assessment of things. Ask me why that set me off so badly and I couldn’t tell you.

Like any coherent adult, I did what an adult works do…

I unsubscribed from his channel and refused to listen to another word he had to say. Smh.

Today, I rectified my dumbsky. I subscribed. I offered up a silent apology. I enjoyed his content.

Im giving myself permission to correct myself. I’m giving myself permission to make mistakes. I’m giving myself permission.

asking for A Friend,
Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: Speaking of mistakes, I have had to go back and finish a good half dozen pieces due to having not finished my thoughts.

The storms, vertigo, fighting a good bout of depression has had me off to myself. My apologies. I give myself permission to cut myself some slack. Be encouraged.

One step.

One step.

One step.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!