Some days, beloveds, you just have to declare a thing.
For those not into Marvel Movies, I shall have to take a moment to explain what I mean. In the meantime, what the hell the matter with yall?!!!😱…*gasp*.
Not to give out spoilers but Thanos was the mightiest, the baddest, the what the fresh hell is this villain in the entire universe.
Long story short, if he was able to gather 6 Infinity Stones, he would be able to snap his finger and get rid of half of all living people, creatures and things.
Longer story made shorter, Thanos got the stones, dammit, snapped his damned fingers, and POOF, mom and half the entire world was gone.
Okay, mom died in 2016 but she may well have been half the entire universe. She was my universe, anyway.
After Thanos, snapped his fingers, and caused half the world to disappear, with no warning, the other half was left reeling, wandering, wondering, wth, wtf, what in the fresh hell were the rest of all to DO WITH THE REST OF THEIR LIVES?!!😱😱
Which leads me to today, this writing, these words.
For 6 years, I have been fighting to find the other half:
Of, me.
Of, life.
Of, peace.
Of, laughter.
Of, what matters.
There are simply times, beloveds, when life, when the world has seemingly, cruelly, finally, irrevocably, snapped it’s fingers and wiped away half, if not all of what mattered to you the most.
There are many, many, many things I have been forced to learn, AFTER the snap. Things, I am still learning.
This may seem strange, but I no longer fear the snap, when it comes, still, from time to time, to snatch away something I held dear.
With each snap, I found:
My, voice.
My, resolve.
My, true feelings.
My, hidden feelings.
I also found the things that were holding me back:
My, fears.
My, pride.
My, stubborn perceptions.
My, I can do this all by myself cape.
My, walls.
Yea, beloveds, each loss became my gain. I was beginning to see, to meet, to fight for…me!
YYYAAAAAAAASSSS!
Not today, Thanos! You did NOT defeat me, today.
Spoiler alert, non Marvel Universe fans…smh…what is WRONG WITH YALL?!…*gasp*: The Avengers, that being Ironman, was able to get the stones back, was able to snap HIS fingers, and avenged the world, taking Thanos and his minions with him.
Morale of the story, beloveds?
When Thanos, when life, when circumstances, snaps its fingers and snatches half of your world…
Stand, fast.
Keep, fighting.
Keep, believing.
As, when the dust clears, what will be left is…YOU!
You shall recover. You shall make it. You shall be the better for having lived through, fought through, fought with Thanos and won.
In the interim, tell fear, tell despair, tell discouragement…
Not today!
Be encouraged.
beating some discouragement ass today,
Cassandra
#YourLifeMattersToMe
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