As soon as doubt stops by, I give it something to do. I don’t waste time wondering if I can. I get to doing something.
Doubt will always come calling when you endeavour to do something with your life.
When doubt stops round, beloveds, give it something to do.
Work on your dream.
Exercise.
Read.
Write.
Sing.
Visit someone who could use some company.
Do the neighbor’s yard.
Phone a friend.
Do NOT entertain doubt/fear. All that does is multiply them and imprisons you.
asking for A Friend, Cassandra
#YourLifeMattersToMe
Note: Don’t let your percieved limitations limit you. Find a way. Make a way. Show us the way. You know more than you give yourself credit for. We all NEED your you! As only YOU can be. Come on out of hiding and allow the world to experience the great like known as you.
It’s time. Time for you to reveal your greatness for all the world to see.
You have been preparing for THESE moments your whole life.
Fear not. If so, take fear with you! These are the moments you have been waiting for.
Enjoy them. Do your best. Try. Then, let the chips fall where they may.
You may win. You may lose. Whatever the result, you gave your all.
There is beauty in your try. YOU did. YOU loved. YOU gave. YOU strove. YOU endured.
In spite of. Despite. Through it all.
Be proud of you. NOW. Don’t wait for the outcome to decide if you are satisfied.
Be filled with joy. NOW. These are awesome moments. ALL of them. The building of. The making of. The success of. The defeat in.
In ALL of your moments, beloveds, take in the wonder of YOU. You tried. You gave it all you got.
You have been preparing for these moments your whole life. Enjoy them. Enjoy YOU!
asking for A Friend, Cassandra
#YourLifeMattersToMe
Note: Things takes time. I tell myself this EVERY day. Don’t allow these moments to pass by without your squeezing every drop of life and knowledge and joy and fun that you can find in them.
You are. The Universe would not have promoted you otherwise.
I don’t know if THIS will fit me.
It might. Try it out and see.
I’m not sure if I will like THIS.
You’ll never know until you try. See if it fits.
Ah, beloveds, The Universe is asking for you to have FAITH. In YOU. In your try. Keep going. The game is not finished. You are not finished. You are just getting started.
Rest as needed. Then get back in the arena and give it your all. Leave it ALL on the field. If you must lose, lose knowing you did all you knew to do. You can live with the outcome after that. Let’s go!!!!
asking for A Friend, Cassandra
#YourLifeMattersToMe
Note: You ARE ready. Now, get out there and make it happen.
Note: Keep fighting. For you. For your dreams. You are well able to overcome THIS. The Universe has your back as you pursue, relentlessly, your dreams. You can do this. You CAN. You WILL.
If I ad a dollar dor every time I have been called ugly, growing up, I would be a billionaire.
I have been thinking about life. A lot. My life, in particular. Other folks live early and often.
For perhaps the first time, I wonder if my care would have been so caring had I been “acceptable” back then?
Would I try so hard to let folk know they are loved and not alone if I had not grown up lonely and alone?
Would my try try so hard to encourage others to not give up, even as I had to fight to stay encouraged all these years?
Would I love God so much because He loves me no matter what, given I felt so little love for so many years?
Ah, beloveds, I can’t really answer that, can I?
All I can do and have done, is to have used all of the ugly; the name calling, the isolation, the eating at the lunch table alone, to propel to and through a life of love.
I’m not ashamed of me. I’m not ashamed to be ugly. I think I am beautiful. Inside and out.
I am overweight. So what?
I have never elicited cat calls from men who should have known better than turning women into trophies and mirrors to make themselves feel better. So what?
I have never lived amidst trappings that enticed the eye and made me a supposed envy for folk to want to emulate. So what?
I’m me. Unapologetically. I have a ridiculous laugh. I tell dumb jokes. I have a huge heart. I have a Buddha belly a wise man would be honored to lay upon knowing the priceless heart that resides inside me.
The world may call me/think me ugly.
Ugliness makes me beautiful.
loving me some me, Cassandra
#YourLifeMattersToMe
Note: I write these words for all the folk who are running around feeling like an imposter. Too many feel worthless because of what they have been told through their lives.
Others feel this way because they believe they need to live amongst wealth in order to be valued and feel valuable.
Each of us has value. Each of us are worthy of time and care.
I plan on spending the rest of my ugly life uplifting others and finding the beauty in the ugliest things. Be encouraged.
I have spent ALL day, beloveds, pulling the less out of my feels.
Feelings are just that: Feelings.
Feelings do NOT dictate who we are or where we are going. At least, they are not supposed to be the leader.
We are so much more than we give ourselves credit for.
I am:
Helpful.
Hopeful.
Joyful.
Powerful.
Tough times are not here to end us. Tough times forces us to choose US. Tough times make us make a decision to believe or give up.
I CHOOSE to:
Move FORWARD.
Look UP.
Stand ten toes down on FAITH, not fear.
Believe in me.
Trust God.
Laugh.
Love.
Live.
When things grow tough, beloveds, keep peeling the less off your feels. Remember that you are mighty. You are magnificent. You are loved.
Never forget that.
asking for A Friend, Cassandra
#YourLifeMattersToMe
Note: Be encouraged. There is no getting around these tough times. We shall get through them. In the meantime, enjoy your day. Find some joy and peace, in the middle of the chaos, all around.
There will always be something to overcome. It’s called life being life.
The older I grow, the more I realize that lamenting THIS. THAT and the OTHER THING, really is a huge waste of life and time.
Best to just deal with them. Head on. With integrity. Then, keep it moving.
Does it really matter whose fault it was? Not really. He messed up. You messed up. They messed up. We messed up.
Let’s fix our messes and decide to stop being so messy. We all have opinions about everything, it seems. In my opinion, I think we should all take a seat, shut up, and listen to someone.
Whatever you are currently fighting/struggling/dealing with, beloveds, remember you are much more than your struggles.
Your struggles do not define you. Your struggles do not signal how things shall be. Your struggles are just that: Struggles. Period.
Your struggles do not mean you will always struggle. You will have another THIS to decide what to do with after you have dealt with THAT…lol.
Trying to figure out why THIS or THAT happened is like trying to figure out why Cassandra can not figure out how to make a decent pan of brownies(more on THAT saga soon…smh).
I was sooooooooo angry 😡 with life after the tornado 🌪.
HOW COULD YOU LET THIS HAPPEN TO ME FOR NO REASON?! I’M A GOOD PERSON! I WORK HARD. I CARE ABOUT THE WORLD. HOW COULD YOU HAVE ALLOWED THIS TO HAPPEN TO ME?!!!
I’m no longer angry. I don’t have time to be. I still have some sad days. I can’t be 💯 with my friends and family and admit how terribly hurt I was and am to have to go through this alone and at my age.
I don’t want to have to deal with THIS. Not now. I would have rather kept dealing with THAT other thing I thought was so terribly hard.
I’m trying to find some uplifting words in here. Somewhere. Maybe that’s the whole point: There will ALWAYS be a THIS. And, THIS may never make sense or be pleasant.
That said, we CAN make it through THIS. Whatever THIS may be.
Be encouraged. You got this. As do I.
hanging in there with you, Cassandra
#YourLifeMattersToMe
Note: This too shall pass. No matter what you are facing, KNOW you shall get through THIS.
Me: I’m afraid of this illness. It’s bad. I may not make it through THIS.
God: I got this.
God had that. I’m here. STILL.
Me: I’m afraid of this storm. It’s bad. I may not make it through THIS.
God: I got this.
God had that. I’m here. STILL.
Me: I’m afraid of this job situation. It’s bad. I may not make it through THIS.
God: I got this.
God has that. I’m here. STILL.
Life happens, beloveds. There will ALWAYS be a THIS that will pop up. The true test and secret to life is learning what and how to do with THIS when it shows up.
Will you give THIS to God to help you take care of?
Will you look at THIS as nothing but the test/trial that it is?
Will you understand that you WILL get through THIS?
Will you ALLOW YOURSELF to feel what you feel, but NOT allow your feels to rule you, as you make your way through THIS?
asking for A Friend, Cassandra
#YourLifeMattersToMe
Note: There will ALWAYS be a THIS in your life. There will ALWAYS be something to move past. To wrestle with. To make our way through.
The point is how we are going to be AFTER this has been dealt with.
What shall you be, beloveds, after your this? Who shall you be? Asking for A Friend.
Scuze me, beloveds, I am trying to get some act right so I can turn my DAMNED 🍋 LEMONS INTO UPLIFTING LEMONADE FOR YOU. OMG!!!
*Cassandra stops 😡 pouting long enough to tell her mournful, terribly sad and awfully what in the fresh hell tale*.
*Cassandra thinks she is being really dramatic about this*
*Cassandra becomes angry with reasonable Cassandra, and they get into a terribly entertaining fight*
*Tired of fighting, Cassandra shares her sad, sad, terrible tale*:
I was in the mood for 🥣 cereal. Golden Grahams to be precise. I decided to do an emergency order and ordered some cereal, some 🥪 sandwich fixings and odds and ends and breathlessly awaited my order.
A while later, the 🚪 doorbell rings. Okay, I don’t have a doorbell, and they left the order without knocking, but still…
I fling the door open to find everything but the Golden Grahams!!! Or, so I thought.
I call the store. Calmly 😡 mad. The store was NOT helpful. Rude, in fact.
I had to tell act right to STAY on the high road. In truth, I dearly wanted to use the low road. I chose the high road.
I told myself to just make sandwiches 🥪 after remembering the sandwich fixings.
Dramatically, I pulled out turkey, cheese, and reach for the buns, and there were no buns!! They forgot the buns and canned goods as well!!!! OMG!!!
I wanted to act a fool. I didn’t. In the end, I found some old buns and made some sandwiches. I ordered more cereal. I got on with my life.
Life is short, beloveds. Things happen. Inconvenient things. Frustrating things. Things that will make the way a bit longer.
That’s okay. Roll with the punches. Go another way. Try something different. Make a new plan. Refurbish the old one.
I used this situation to make ME better. I chose not to be angry with the driver. I chose not to be angry with the store. I chose not to be angry.
I chose to laugh. I chose to get on with my evening. In the past, I would have spent the rest of the evening stewing. I would have gone to bed hungry. I would have played the martyr and not fixed something else to eat.
I am growing. Slowly. I am learning. Slowly. I am hungry…lol.
I’m fixing to enjoy some sammiches. Who wants to join me?
asking for A Friend, Cassandra
#YourLifeMattersToMe
Note: It’s not what happens to us that counts. It’s what happens IN us as we choose to respond in ways that uplifts us and others. Keep on being the awesome folk you are. I love me some you.
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