I love Kenny Rogers! I love singing ‘Through The Years’. The song reminds me to keep being good to me. The song helps me to remember that I have done the best I could through the years and I will continue doing so.
I have been my own best friend through the years. I will continue to do so.
I’m getting a kick out of this me. I love this me. I look forward to being around this me. There is no one else in the world like me!
Enjoy yourself today. Stop focusing on all your flaws. What do you enjoy about yourself? If you don’t know, find out.
Be your own best friend today.
asking for A Friend, Cassandra
#YourLifeMattersToMe
Note: How much time do you spend, each day, with you getting to know YOU? Stop chasing behind people who could care less about you. Spend some time with you. What do you dream of doing? Are you working towards that dream? If not, start today. Life is short.
Enjoy your flaws. We all have them. They are nothing to be ashamed of. We work on them. We love ourselves, still. Keep on loving you. allow others to love you as well. Get out there and live. Have a marvelous rest of your day?
Everywhere, EVERYWHERE, protections are being removed for women, the disabled, gay folk and people of color.
The government has literally labeled diversity, equity and inclusion as “illegal and immoral”…*sigh*.
I asked God what do I DO/SAY about these things?
I absolutely REFUSE to view my fellow men/women as my enemy.
I simply REFUSE to make my blog “colorblind” and not honor the wonderful cultures and country we all come from.
I will NEVER write to encourage only those who look, sound and believe as I do.
This blog is my love letter to my fellow men/women. This is where we come together, TOGETHER, to find encouragement, laughter, act right, joy, support and many things.
God’s Answer?
Love.
Live.
Laugh.
Keep on being…YOU.
Simple as that.
I will.
I do.
If you are a person of color in America just now, be encouraged.
If you are not a person of color, I wonder how you must feel about all this. Does it matter to you? Do we folk of color truly not MATTER? Is it REALLY okay for our children to go hungry? Is it honestly okay to criminalize allowing us to have the opportunity only white folk are to be afforded? What makes the rest of us unworthy?
To ALL of us, I ask:
Will you consider these words and make the choice to be a light?
That’s all I am asking.
Okay, back to my regularly scheduled programming. Geez, tho. Please share your thoughts in the comment. I could use a shoulder or two or ten…*sigh*.
While I am working on my dreams, beloveds, I am doing my best to support other folk’s dreams.
In so doing, this has taken some of the hard out of my try. Rather, I’m focusing less on the hard, and more on just BEING.
I just enjoyed writing this morning. I wasn’t concerned about who would stop by. I didn’t fret about who would care about what I had to say.
I wrote. I cared. I enjoyed the writing. I thoroughly enjoyed caring about and praying for folk.
When I was done I prayed:
God, here are my three fishes and loaves of bread. Would you please multiple them, just as Jesus did, when He fed all those people? Help me make a difference. Bless the words You have given me. Help me to remember I am more than what I do. Thank You for caring for us all. Help us to care for one another. Help us make our dreams come true. Amen and Amen.
EVERY day, I ask for blessings for EVERY heart that stops by. I pray for those who shall never come this way.
I stated loudly, my FEELINGS on his WRONG opinion. I went on to explain LOUDLY/PROUDLY why MY opinion was the one I should go with.
In truth, I initially only half listened to what he said. I let my passion take over, and ALL I became concerned with was letting passion have her way in defending what I wanted.
Eventually, I realized he was right, coming from HIS standpoint and other factors he had tried to tell me BEFORE I got my huff and puff on.
Now, I was fighting with TWO, self inflicted issues:
Feeling like I wasn’t allowed to be heard because my voice gets super loud when I am super excited. I’m not angry. The opposite, in fact. I’m excited. I want to share that excitement. In real time. As ME. The EXCITED me.
The only problem is the other side hears a raised voice, especially coming from a black woman, and it is almost automatically silenced as being angry, aggressive and shut down.
My friend did NOT do that. I didn’t give him the chance. I immediately became defensive, which led to me being aggressive.
I recognized this and found my act right.
My second issue was not listening all the way through. I jumped in. With two incredibly loud feet. I defeated the whole purpose of asking for HIS opinion/feedback. Oops. I sowwy, my friend.
I HAVE to give a shout out to him. He could have easily terminated the conversation and left me to my dumbness. He didn’t. He let me explain. He explained back. We moved on.
He was right and helped me see important truths I will need moving forward. He helped me see, and work on, the part of my heart, still smarting, from being shut down by others. By me. I’m still a work in progress.
I just stopped by to help someone BEFORE they blow up a relationship by allowing ego to get in the way.
Your people care. They give their opinion and feedback based on their love for you and concern for your future. The ones who are in your corner, that is.
That’s why it’s important to recognize who is giving the feedback. If a critic, LISTEN. Gather, what truth is there. Leave the rest where it is. Don’t worry about the 🚚 delivery. Take advantage of the gold left behind!
I’m glad I recognized and checked ego. Initially, I just kept saying “No” to what he told me to DO. It was in direct conflict with what I wanted to do.
As it turns out, I will need to do his thing AND my thing. In two separate spaces. I was trying to jam too many things into one section. They won’t fit.
My friend is saving me time, struggle, and 😤 frustration by trying to fit the right thing into the wrong vehicle.
I have been praying for months about which way to go/grow. God used my friend. I almost turned said friend away and added a ton of 🗑 wasted time ⌚ I can’t afford to throw away.
I know this is a long piece. Purposefully so. Sometimes, beloveds, it’s important to take your time and share your HEART, not your anger or past wounds, with a friend.
I share both with you, so maybe you can recognize a bit of a boo boo in you.
Just my thoughts.
Cassandra
#YourLifeMattersToMe
Note: This was not an easy piece to write. I’m still working on me. Be gentle with you as you work on yourself and allow yourself to grow and be redirected. Be willing to tell ego to stand down as you show folk who you are. You will be glad you did.
What are YOU going to do despite/in spite of this?
Everything that can go wrong has.
What are YOU going to do despite/in spite of that?
ALL seems hopelessly lost.
What are YOU going to do despite/in spite of/in the middle of ALL this?
It can be hard knowing what to do when hard won’t stop being hard.
Still, it’s important to continue to work on things. Yesterday, I kept taking two steps forward while taking three steps back.
What worked for one platform would not work for another. I received enough funds to upgrade my software, so I could do what I REALLY wanted to do, instead of being limited by the free edition.
As soon as I put the funds on my cc, the finance/interest charges laughed at me and took it all.
I almost quit for the day. I didn’t. I sat with the disappointment. Then, I got on with it. I used what I had. I didn’t waste time on what might have been.
All is not lost. You are not lost. Even if you have taken the wrong path, beloveds, you can turn around. At least you are moving!
Keep going.
asking for A Friend, Cassandra
#YourLifeMattersToMe
Note: You can do this. You can survive that. Make the decision. Take action. The best thing for fear/doubt/apathy is to DO. Doing nothing, durinf
I have been enjoying YouTube channels from creators I have never thought about.
I have been learning how to be a yacht chef. I have been sneaking on airplanes with pilots.
I have been tagging along with folks who own vending machines and enjoyed countless hours watching the coin counter add up all the quarters!
I have watched a mother raise her 9 children. I have enjoyed watching single folk encouraging folk to enjoy being single and childfree.
I have watched folk run for 100 miles ON PURPOSE!😳🥰
I have watched folk from all walks of life. I have enjoyed folk from countless countries and cultures.
I feel sorry for those poor souls who are so broken they can only love and be comfortable with folk who look like, sound like and act like them. Smh.
Life is short, beloveds. Expand your view. Try things you would have never thought you would try in a hundred lifetimes!
The past few days I have been watching folk who have a passion for luxury watches. Goodness and gravy some of those watches are sooooooooooo expensive! They are beautiful, I must admit.
Keep expanding your world. It’s a hoot. Life is good. Even when it’s hard.
Be well.
asking for A Friend, Cassandra
#YourLifeMattersToMe
Note: Keep expanding your horizons. There is much to experience. Have an awesome time while you’re doing it. Enjoy your day. All of it. Be encouraged.
I am many things, mostly a human being. Doing my best to love my family, make an honest living, and care for the 🌎 world.
Why won’t you let me?
Why won’t you let me be me?
Why won’t you let me be?
Why must I be judged by the color of my skin?
Why must I be judged by my gender?
Why must I be judged by my looks?
Why must I be judged by my bank account?
Why must I be judged?
I’m just trying to love.
What/who are YOU?
asking for A Friend, Cassandra
#YourLifeMattersToMe
Note: I have given my all this week. The results seem miniscule. Still, I gave. I loved. I laughed. I struggled. I maintained. I grew. I lost. A full week. I am moving FORWARD. Ah, God. I am hungry to eat from the fruits of my labor. Universe, give me my bounty!
Who are you, beloveds? Keep being a light. Keep shining your light. Have an amazing weekend. You have tried. Let your try be enough. Get in your me time. Chair dance. 😂. Laugh. Be encouraged. I love you. So does He.
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