WHAT IF I BECOME TOO EXPENSIVE TO LOVE? 😭💔❤️‍🔥

AUGUST 28, 2026

WHAT IF I BECOME TOO EXPENSIVE TO LOVE? 😭💔❤️‍🔥

Beloveds,

This one hurts.

Because Jesus/The Father have been walking us underneath guilt.

Underneath independence.

Underneath our desperate need to be useful.

And maybe underneath all of that is a fear some of us have never said aloud:

“What if loving me eventually costs too much?”

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Not money.

Heart.

Time.

Energy.

Patience.

Plans.

Convenience.

Sleep.

Attention.

What if I need too much?

What if my healing takes too long?

What if my grief keeps showing up?

What if I can’t bounce back according to everybody else’s preferred schedule?

What if I need somebody again tomorrow?

And next week?

And after everybody has finished saying, “I’m here if you need me,” what happens when I actually need them?

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Maybe that’s why some of us apologize constantly.

I’m sorry.

I’m sorry you had to come.

I’m sorry this took so long.

I’m sorry I needed you.

I’m sorry you had to change your plans.

I’m sorry I’m crying again.

I’m sorry I’m not myself.

I’m sorry I’m still struggling.

I’m sorry.

I’m sorry.

I’m sorry for being expensive to love.

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And perhaps Jesus/The Father interrupt:

“Beloved, who taught you that love keeps an invoice?”

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Because maybe somewhere along the way, doing felt safer than needing.

If I do everything myself, nobody gets tired because of me.

If I don’t ask, nobody can resent the request.

If I don’t need, nobody gets the opportunity to decide that my needs are too much.

If I keep giving, perhaps nobody will notice how desperately I need to receive.

And if I make myself useful enough—

maybe nobody will regret keeping me around.

WHEW.

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Beloveds, that isn’t just independence.

Sometimes that’s fear wearing work clothes.

Fear can look remarkably responsible.

Fear gets things DONE.

Fear says:

“Don’t ask anybody. Handle it.”

Fear says:

“Don’t let them see how bad it really is.”

Fear says:

“Hurry up and get better before everybody gets tired.”

Fear says:

“Make yourself useful.”

Fear says:

“Give something back QUICKLY.”

Because fear believes:

If I receive more than I give for too long, somebody may decide I’m no longer worth the cost.

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But Jesus/The Father are challenging that accounting system.

Not by telling us relationships don’t require reciprocity.

They do.

Healthy love needs respect.

Gratitude.

Communication.

Boundaries.

Care in both directions.

But love is not always perfectly balanced in every season.

Sometimes you carry me.

Sometimes I carry you.

Sometimes we walk beside each other.

And sometimes, Beloved—

I simply cannot carry my end today.

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That doesn’t automatically make me a burden.

It makes me human.

And perhaps the hardest thing for some of us to learn is this:

Being carried does not mean you have become the weight.

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Read THAT again.

You can require assistance without becoming an inconvenience.

You can require patience without becoming a problem.

You can require tenderness without becoming weak.

You can receive more during one season without becoming less valuable.

And somebody can become tired while helping you without their tiredness meaning:

“I wish you didn’t exist.”

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WHEW.

Some of us needed that sentence.

Because we watch everybody’s faces.

Don’t we?

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Was that sigh because of me?

Are they tired of me?

Did I ask too much?

Did their voice sound different?

Should I stop asking?

Should I figure this out myself?

Maybe I shouldn’t have called.

Maybe—

Beloved.

Come back.

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Jesus/The Father aren’t asking us to ignore people’s boundaries.

They’re teaching us not to turn every human limitation into a verdict on our worth.

Someone can love you and be tired.

Someone can love you and need rest.

Someone can love you and occasionally say no.

Someone can love you and have needs of their own.

Their boundary does not automatically mean:

“You became too much.”

And your need does not automatically mean:

“You failed.”

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But there is something even deeper here.

Maybe we’re more comfortable being needed than being wanted.

Because being needed gives us something to do.

Fix something.

Carry something.

Encourage somebody.

Make somebody laugh.

Solve the problem.

Pray.

Work.

Serve.

Give.

We know exactly what to do with:

“I need you.”

But what happens when somebody says:

“I just want you here.”

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No assignment.

No performance.

No problem to solve.

No payment required.

Just—

you.

And suddenly we don’t know where to put our hands.

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Because if there’s nothing to do, nothing to earn and nothing to prove, we’re left standing in front of the question:

“Is who I am enough reason for somebody to stay?”

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And perhaps Jesus/The Father whisper:

“Yes.”

Before you helped anybody.

Yes.

Before you became strong.

Yes.

Before you learned how to make everybody laugh.

Yes.

Before you accomplished anything.

Yes.

Before you got yourself together.

Yes.

When you are giving.

Yes.

When you are receiving.

Yes.

When you are standing.

Yes.

When you have to be carried.

Yes.

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“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son…”
— John 3:16 KJV

Notice the order.

He loved.

Then He gave.

Love wasn’t waiting at the finish line after we became impressive enough.

Love moved first.

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Maybe that’s what Jesus/The Father are teaching us.

“Beloved, you keep trying to give Us reasons to love you.

Our love was here before your reasons.”

WHEW.

So maybe the question today isn’t:

“What can I do so people will keep loving me?”

Maybe it’s:

“Can I believe I’m worth loving when I have nothing to offer today except myself?”

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CASSANDRA CHALLENGE ❤️‍🔥

Catch yourself trying to pay emotional rent today.

When you feel yourself scrambling to prove that you’re worth the trouble—

stop.

Don’t immediately perform.

Don’t immediately promise repayment.

Don’t immediately apologize for needing.

Try:

“Thank you for being here.”

Then allow the moment to remain unfinished.

No transaction.

No invoice.

Just love received.

And tonight, perhaps sit with Jesus/The Father and ask:

“Why am I more comfortable being needed than simply being wanted?”

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Then listen.

Because perhaps Jesus/The Father have something extraordinarily tender to say:

“Beloved, We did not come because you were useful to Us.

We came because We love you.

You don’t have to work while you’re being held.”

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Maybe you’ve spent years asking:

“What can I do for love?”

And now Jesus/The Father are asking:

“Will you finally let love do something for you?”

😭🙏💔❤️‍🔥

Unapologetically His.
Unapologetically yours.

Asking for A Friend,
Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: One step. One step. One step. You are loved. You are NOT alone. Keep on being…YOU! ❤️‍🔥