Month: May 2025

I realize: I’m tired of playing the “I’m alright” game.

I realize that I have never given myself permission to be:

Sad.

Mad.

Devastated…

By the devastating tornado from last Memorial’s Day Weekend. I was too busy making sure everyone was not too upset about me possibly being upset.

I realize I never gave myself permission to be:

Sad.

Mad.

Devastated…

That my job advised me to start working when I was too traumatized to breathe, let alone work.

I realize I never gave myself permission to be:

Sad.

Mad.

Devastated…

By ride or die “friends” who rode off not caring if I lived or died.

I realize I never gave myself permission to be:

Sad.

Mad.

Devastated…

By God allowing, by Life presenting, by The Universe orchestrating such a devastating turn of events.

I realize I’m tired of playing the “I’m alright” game.

I decided to do myself a service and be 100 with ME. I texted one or two and let them know I was turning off my phone for Memorial Day Weekend so I can process and move FORWARD.

I realize I am stuck. The tornado passed physically. Still, it has remained in the corner recesses of my mind. I am ready to be free of it.

I am proud of myself. It is super stormy. Instead of being afraid, I have made sure to hydrate, eat and rest. I have spent the day watching folk do incredibly dumb things on YouTube.

I just stopped by to encourage someone and let you know that it is perfectly okay to not be alright after devastation has befallen you.

I have grown lots. I have healed much. Yet, I have a bit of grieving to do. I was so busy looking out for the world, beloveds, I forgot about me. Don’t forget about you.

asking for A Friend,
Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: Life is good. Even when it’s hard. Give yourself permission and know you are NOT your pain. I love you. So does He.

Find a way.

Make the way.

Be the way!

Be encouraged.

Back away from the computer, Cassandra! 🖥 😳🤡

Whew.

WHEW!!

OMG!!!!!

*Cassandra thanks her lucky stars she was smart enough to press NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO when the computer smartly asked her was she SURE when she pressed the button to have more than 3,400 seemingly duplicate files 📂 PERMANENTLY deleted!!!!!!!!*

Having diverted disaster, beloveds, I immediately shut down the laptop before I did lasting damage. I have spent twelve and a half hours organizing, organizing, organizing and organizing EVERY video and file on my laptop. Taking this time will save me countless hours on the other end.

I found music files mixed in with video files. I found video files mixed in with pictures. I found voiceover files stashed I don’t know where the hooey those things came from. Smh.

That’s what happens when you do something before you have become proficient said doing of the something!😳

Proficiency takes time, consistent effort, tenacity, and a good deal of humor.

Be good to yourself,  beloveds, as you work to organize, organize, and organize. There is no telling where you will find your files.😁🥰🤣

asking for A Friend,
Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: I am so grateful for the hard. What a wonderful time I have been finding on the other side of fear, doubt and crisis of faith.

I have been wrestling with my faith for some days. I had to be sure it was MY faith, not just something I was raised to believe or told I must believe by this church or that one. I have been fought at EVERY step. Geeeeeez, God! Whew.

I love me some Him. I love me some you, beloveds. Hang in there. Trials strengthen your faith, reveals your lack of faith, shows you that we all have faith in SOMETHING. The trick is finding out what we are believing in/agreeing with/standing on.

Keep standing ten toes down on FAITH. Tell fear to kick rocks! Tell doubts to take two seats. Get up as many times as it takes!!



One step.

One step.

One step.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!

You can do what you set your mind to do.

I’m learning that I can do what I set my mind to do.

I don’t make excuses. Not anymore. I get up and try. Simple as that. I don’t waste half the day trying to talk myself into doing this or out of trying that. In times past, I wasted so much time  making excuses.

While I was feeling better, I did as much work on the computer as I could, knowing that I may not be able to for several days. I am learning to work around these storms in my vertigo. I have no choice. Life is much too short. I have things to do.

Set your mind to doing something, then just do it. Simple as that. Can we spend too much of our lives complicating things and making things harder than they need to be.

I could have spared my hands, hours of typing, simply by getting up and getting the headset I knew I had. Laziness kept me from doing so. How silly. I’m getting so much work done now.

I have learned to work smarter, not harder. I still work hard, but I don’t work myself to the point of being so tired it takes me days to recover. How silly. 56 refuser to do that anymore.

I hope you’re having a fabulous week. If you’re not, you can always begin again. Take care.

asking for A Friend,
Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: Life is what you make it. make it a great one.

One step.

One step.

One step.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!

Don’t let it win.

Fear.

Don’t let it win.

Grief.

Don’t let it win.

Anger.

Don’t let it win.

Apathy.

Don’t let it win.

All of those things have blown in with this latest storm, beloveds. Laughing at me. Taunting me. Reminding me a tornado showed up, a year ago tomorrow, and turned my life on it’s head.

I want to be angry. I’m not. I want to be sad. I kind of am. I want to give in to the fright of how in the hell am I going to pay next month’s rent. I can’t afford to do that now.

What will I DO instead?

Wait patiently.

Cry just a wee bit.

Keep moving FORWARD.

Keep looking UP.

I don’t know what God is going to do, beloveds. I know what I am going to do:

Keep on believing.

Keep on loving.

Keep on laughing.

Keep on hoping.

Keep standing on business.

Keep standing ten toes down.

I just stopped by to encourage those who are, quite frankly, sick and tired of weathering all these physical/spiritual/emotional storms all whilst maintaining our sanity/dignity/joy!…*stamps foot*

Be encouraged. This too SHALL pass.

asking for A Friend,
Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: I just threw a virtual tantrum/pity party so you don’t have to. Borrow this one then get on with your life. Take the day, if need be, to get out a bit of sad then pop some popcorn, watch an old movie and keep being about being about it.



One step.

One step.

One step.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!

Keep trying new things.

Keep trying new things. I have learned something new today. something that will save me a ton of times when it comes to writing my pieces.

At first, I wanted to get mad because I hadn’t learned this earlier. I reminded myself that change takes time. I told myself that learning is a process. I stressed to myself that I will learn when it’s time for me to learn.

I am pressing buttons. I never used to press. I am sampling things I never would have tried before. I am having a blast doing so. I have dug out an old headset that is allowing me to be hands-free. This has been a big help.

I have another headset that I use when I make my motivational videos. I am able to enjoy music while uplifting others at the same time.

I am learning how not to try to squeeze the square peg into a round hole! It only took 56 years…lol.

Stop giving yourself such a hard time. You are exactly where you’re supposed to be at this time in your life.

I no longer question my gift. I encourage. I write. Simple as that. It helps to know your why. I have been enjoying encouraging people every day. I keep asking God how I can monetize myself and spread myself out, where I can take care of myself financially. He has not answered yet.

The more silent He grows, the more I work. The more silent He is, the harder I try. The more silent He is…???

Ah.

Aha!

Keep going. even when all is silent. especially when everything is quiet. You just don’t know if the next blow will be the blow that will change everything! Keeps swinging.

Have an amazing day today. Don’t forget to cut yourself some slack. Remember, you’re doing everything that you know.

asking for A Friend,
Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: Love someone today. Starting with you.

One step.

One step.

One step.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!

A coffee funny.

This never fails to bring a smile to my face.

Have a wonderful day today. As Tabitha Brown always says “Don’t let no one ruin your day”.

Take today with a laugh and a grain of salt. Get in your me time. Be good to yourself as you make your way to a ridiculous acting world.

asking for A Friend,
Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: Who is up for a cup of coffee?

One step.

One step.

One step.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!

Just love.❤️‍🩹💔❤️💋

I got up super early to spread as much of my love around as I could.

I sent love to everyone in my phone contacts. I spread my love to TikTok. I gave my love on Instagram. I left my love on my blog.

Satisfied, I went back to sleep. Generally, I don’t focus on results. I have learned, am learning still to put things out there and let be…be.

Today, for some reason, my heart secretly longed to be loved 🔙 back by the masses. I wasn’t. They didn’t. Scarcely a response. From anywhere.

My ♥ heart, saddened, I went back to sleep.

I woke. Refreshed. Still in love with the 🌎 world.

I checked my 📱 phone. One or advised they NEEDED that today, sharing heartache known only by them. I had NO idea they were going through.

I saw two likes on TikTok.  Perhaps those two needed those words today.

My heart swells. It’s not always the number. It’s not always about us. God and The Universe woke me super easy to love the 🌎 world today. They knew who needed the words and made sure my love got to where it needed to be and get to.

Be encouraged, beloveds. Your labor is NOT in vain.

Take care of your beautiful heart. Love because you can. Someone needs some love. Start with you.

asking for A Friend,
Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: I love me some you.

One step.

One step.

One step.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!

I love you.

I stopped by to let you know that I love you and care about your life, beloveds. I said a nice prayer for you. I have asked for blessings, love, and protection over your life.

I have asked for every wound to be healed.  I have asked for every need to be made. This is the say the Lord has made, as the Bible says. Let us rejoice and be glad in it. We get this one day to make as many memories as we can.

asking for A Friend,
Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: I love you. So does He. I woke today with gratitude. Life is good. Even when it’s hard. Don’t let the hard keep you from seeing the blessings in today. Be dn

One step.

One step.

One step.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!

Just be YOU.

There is a rash of folk who are living their lives pretending.

They are pretending to work out, pretending to be rich, pretending to be entrepreneurs. How sad.

We are so much more than what we do or what we have.

Just be YOU, beloveds. You are one of one. You are unique.

You do NOT have to be someone or something you are not.

It’s okay to age. It’s okay to be young. It’s okay to have little. It’s okay to have lots.

You don’t have to live in a mansion. It’s okay to work a blue collar job.

We are ALL needed. In EVERY space.

I just stopped round to encourage folk to be themselves. The older you get, beloveds, the more you will understand that life is much too short to be concerned with the superficial.

Take care.

asking for A Friend,
Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: You don’t have to be any one other than who you are. Keep being the beautiful person that you are.

One step.

One step.

One step.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!

Trust the process.

Trust the process.

asking for A Friend,
Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: Sometimes, it’s hard to trust the engineer. Trust anyway. We all want to be in control of everything. Too bad life does not give us that option.

It’s taking everything in me to try and then leave things up to The Universe to make things do what they need to do.

The older I get, the less I find the need to have to be the one to save the day. I just want to be part in saving it. 😂

One step.

One step.

One step.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!