It feels like all I have been doing is fighting lately. Trying to keep a positive attitude. Fighting with lazy. Duking it out with fear.
I have been fighting my way out of bed. I have been fighting through emotions. I have been fighting with everything and everyone to keep my dreams intact.
Fighting so hard is exhausting. I almost wanna say, forget about it and walk away. I can’t. My dreams mean too much to me. I want to see what they look like. Fulfilled!
I shall keep fighting. How about you? Keep giving it everything you have. We shall win in the end.
asking for A Friend, Cassandra
#YourLifeMattersToMe
Note: I wanted to quit many times. I refuse to quit. the battle is one or lost in the mind. I tell myself to keep going. I tell myself to be encouraged. I tell myself to keep standing on faith and not fear. I keep telling myself the truth. I can and I will. So will you.
The circumstances may have turned hopelessly wrong.
It won’t be because I didn’t try!
Everyone may have given up on the project.
It won’t be because I didn’t try!
The relationship may have not worked out.
It won’t be because I didn’t try!
The friendship may have ended.
It won’t be because I didn’t try!
I may have lost everything.
It won’t be because I didn’t try!
Life happens, beloveds. Good things. Bad things. Tough things. Unfortunate things. Fortunate things. Too many things to name here.
Whatever happens, beloveds, don’t allow yourself the victim role. WE determine how to respond with what happens.
WE determine what we shall DO with what happens. WE determine what our attitudes shall be with what happens.
Don’t allow yourself ONE excuse this coming year! Enough of that!
If you lose, so be it. Just be certain you haven’t lost because you never tried!
Get up! Get going! You’ve got thangs to do in 2025!
So what things didn’t work out as you thought this past year. So what! Get over it! Get over yourself!
I tell myself this EVERY day! Get over yourself, Cassandra! You’ve got thangs to do THIS year.
We CAN, beloveds! We WILL!
asking for A Friend, Cassandra
#YourLifeMattersToMe
Note: I am looking forward to 2025. 2025 has NO idea what I am fixing to do within it!
Keep moving FORWARD, beloveds. Use these last days to leave 2024 IN 2024. Don’t take the mistakes with you. Don’t take old fears with you. Don’t take old beliefs with you.
Deal with YOU in 2024 so you can enjoy a fantastic 2025. Be done with holding YOU back. Forgive yourself for all you have done or not done. Life is much too short for you to continue lambasting yourself for your current position.
Be encouraged. You ARE on the right path. Yes, it has taken much longer than you had hoped. Yea, you have gotten in your way more than was helpful.
Yet, you fight on. Celebrate your try. I admire you. You keep going no matter what. Know that you are seen. Your efforts SHALL amount to something. They already have.
I DARE you to pursue your dreams relentlessly. Come on. We have thangs to do.
In case no one has told you today: I love you. So does He.
Don’t allow your circumstances to tell YOUR story.
Don’t allow the enemy to tell YOUR story.
Don’t allow your family to tell YOUR story.
Don’t allow friends to tell YOUR story.
Don’t allow your job to tell YOUR story.
Beloveds, only YOU can tell YOUR story the way it was MEANT to be told. Only YOU have lived through your experiences. Only YOU have overcome the things in which you have overcome.
Don’t go the way of the world in being swayed by this, that and every other thing. Make up your own mind. Tell YOUR story. YOUR way. In YOUR words.
Beloveds, you do NOT need another’s permission to do and to be you. Enough of that!
You don’t need a significant other to be significant. You already are. You also do not need a significant other to tell you how to act, think or be. You are perfectly equipped to be about that life on your own.
I am currently listening to “Push It” by Salt-N-Pepa. This song ALWAYS makes me feel like the indefatigable, invincible, courageous and spectacular person I am!!! YYYAYYAAAAAASSSSSS!
We spend entirely much too much time worrying about what others think about what we think about what we think about. This sentence doesn’t make sense. It makes about as much sense as worrying about what others think about what we think about!
I’ll stop by long enough to encourage you to tell your own story. Your story is unique to you. You can also kick folk out of your stories if you want to!
Life is short. Tell your story. All of it. Don’t be ashamed of your story. The things that have happened in your life has helped to shape you. Don’t waste a moment worrying about who may or may not read your story. Your audience will find you. I can’t wait to hear what you have to say.
asking for A Friend, Cassandra
#YourLifeMattersToMe
Note: I have gathered so many stories living through this hard time. I am doing my best to share as many of them as I can to help as many people as I can. Life is short. Do you. Be you.
If you have done these things, beloveds, keep it moving!
You gave your all.
You did your best.
You can live with the results.
Folk will either receive or reject your try. So be it, beloveds. Ours is just to try. We pass on the results of our try to God, Life and The Universe. Not our problem what happens next.
STOP paying rent to the universe! Meaning, you do NOT have to come bearing gifts to be loved! You ARE loved, beloveds. My heart aches for every soul who is secretly believing they are only enough if they DO enough. Lies!
You are a priceless soul, beloveds. You ARE!
Take care today. Give yourself space and room to grow.
Before you start, ask yourself why you are starting.
BEFORE you start.
Before you start, ask yourself who/whom you are starting for.
BEFORE you start.
Before you start, ask yourself if you are willing to do so regardless of the outcome.
What if the outcome does no benefit for you? Will you start?
What if starting will require more than you believed it would? Will you start?
What if starting results in losing folk because they don’t/won’t see things as you do. Will you start?
Too many rush to follow the crowd, without counting the costs.
Starting could cost you everything. Then again, starting could bring you more than you knew existed.
Life is short, beloveds. Be sure to ask yourself why you are doing or fixing to do your about to.
Remember that you don’t always have to say yes. Give yourself permission to say no. Folk are often afraid to say yes because they fear being judged or rejected.
To that I say phooey on that! That’s a bunch of gaslighting. Folk should be as willing for your no as they were thankful for your yes!
Your time is much too valuable to be doing something you truly want to do. Not a have to. A want to.
I encourage folk daily because I want to. There are times when I stop and ask again why I am here.
Am I here for you or for me? Is it to encourage others or to feed my ego? I make sure I do not type one word until I am reaching out to love folk without my mess mixed in.
To be sure, I gain as much as I try and give out. Reaching out to others really does help me to look UP, move FORWARD and stand on FAITH.
I’m praying for us all today. I pray especially for those who have been hopelessly turned off by religious foolishness. Be encouraged. It’s NOT God’s fault He has some super dumb acting children at times. Smh.
Have an amazing rest of your day.
asking for A Friend, Cassandra
#YourLifeMattersToMe
Note: I’m asking myself many questions these days. Life is much too short to be wasting on things for the wrong reasons. Be encouraged. Don’t forget to enjoy your day.
WE are given the AWESOME privilege of love. We get to choose:
WHO we love.
HOW we treat the ones we love.
How we treat those we DON’T love.
WHEN we will bestow love.
When we will WITHDRAW love.
Love is THE key.
Love is one of the greatest force on earth.
Folk have killed to obtain love.
Folk have killed themselves when love had been withheld.
Folks, daily, surrender everything about themselves, in attempts to earn/win love/acceptance.
Love is NOT a trophy to be earned.
Love is NOT a pawn in our game to be used to manipulate the world around us.
Sadly, folk use love as a transaction. Discouragingly, folk see/use love as a commodity to be traded/bartered.
Similarly, folk also use the love their family, friends and others have graciously given them. They use that love to guilt the giver:
“If you REALLY loved me you would have…”
“If you TRULY loved me you would have not…”
“If you LOVE me, you will give me…”
“If…”
“You should have…”
“You had better…”
The lover then finds himself/herself/themselves tossed into a prison of another’s making. They are now bound to new terms and conditions. In order to ‘keep the peace’, they oftentimes will cede the rest of their love, to the one who has now become a transactional user.
The floor of the relationship has now become one of eggshells. Fragile. Rigid. Unyielding. Now, the ONLY thing that matters is keeping the transactional party “happy”.
Why? Because, he/she/they will withdraw THEIR love FROM us.
Once this dynamic enters, beloveds, it no longer contains GENUINE love. ALL the love given, thereafter, is given out of:
Obligation.
Guilt.
Anger.
Apathy.
Resentment.
In fact, in truth, folk on BOTH sides are no longer loving. They are no longer GIVING love. They are no longer RECEIVING love.
They start giving:
Obligation.
Guilt.
Anger.
Apathy.
Resentment.
When we do this, beloveds, Love steps out of the way. Love REFUSES to be party to this equation. Love will withdraw Itself. The bible says we love because He first loved us.
I have been doing my best to remove as many strings as I can from relationships. On my end, from my choices, with my actions.
I give my love freely. Without conditions. Yet, I ask that you recognize, receive and value my love for the priceless treasure it is. Treat it with care. Treat it kindly.
If you can’t/don’t/won’t, I must protect my love from being turned into a transaction: By you. By me.
Love is NOT earned. That said, you must earn another’s TRUST. Then, and only then, will you granted access into another’s heart.
Be careful, beloveds. Most good-hearted folk liberally bestows trust on folk thereby giving their love every which way. Then, when their heart is broken by transactional folk, they will lock their heart away.
Be careful with Love. Love is so strong it makes Itself fragile so the recipient can experience what unconditional love fills like.
Unconditional love is a beautiful thing. It feels amazing while giving. It feels wonderful when received fully.
I’m doing my best to love folk. As best as I can. I am also understanding that I can’t afford to keep giving my love to those who treat it callously.
We have all been much too careless and carefree with and about love. I’m learning to value her more and more.
I know this was a bit lengthy. I wanted to do justice to the subject. I fear I have communicated clumsily.
I have given what I have…my love. I hope it was enough for some.
Cassandra
#YourLifeMattersToMe
Note: I long for the days when folk looked upon one another with care and not just another transaction to get something from…
