Love is NOT a transaction, beloveds.
Love is NOT transactional.
Love is:
Transformative.
Love:
Transforms.
Love: Transfers.
Love:
Gives of ITSELF.
Love:
Gives ITSELF to another.
Freely.
Without conditions.
Love just loves.
Period.
WE are given the AWESOME privilege of love. We get to choose:
WHO we love.
HOW we treat the ones we love.
How we treat those we DON’T love.
WHEN we will bestow love.
When we will WITHDRAW love.
Love is THE key.
Love is one of the greatest force on earth.
Folk have killed to obtain love.
Folk have killed themselves when love had been withheld.
Folks, daily, surrender everything about themselves, in attempts to earn/win love/acceptance.
Love is NOT a trophy to be earned.
Love is NOT a pawn in our game to be used to manipulate the world around us.
Sadly, folk use love as a transaction. Discouragingly, folk see/use love as a commodity to be traded/bartered.
Similarly, folk also use the love their family, friends and others have graciously given them. They use that love to guilt the giver:
“If you REALLY loved me you would have…”
“If you TRULY loved me you would have not…”
“If you LOVE me, you will give me…”
“If…”
“You should have…”
“You had better…”
The lover then finds himself/herself/themselves tossed into a prison of another’s making. They are now bound to new terms and conditions. In order to ‘keep the peace’, they oftentimes will cede the rest of their love, to the one who has now become a transactional user.
The floor of the relationship has now become one of eggshells. Fragile. Rigid. Unyielding. Now, the ONLY thing that matters is keeping the transactional party “happy”.
Why? Because, he/she/they will withdraw THEIR love FROM us.
Once this dynamic enters, beloveds, it no longer contains GENUINE love. ALL the love given, thereafter, is given out of:
Obligation.
Guilt.
Anger.
Apathy.
Resentment.
In fact, in truth, folk on BOTH sides are no longer loving. They are no longer GIVING love. They are no longer RECEIVING love.
They start giving:
Obligation.
Guilt.
Anger.
Apathy.
Resentment.
When we do this, beloveds, Love steps out of the way. Love REFUSES to be party to this equation. Love will withdraw Itself. The bible says we love because He first loved us.
I have been doing my best to remove as many strings as I can from relationships. On my end, from my choices, with my actions.
I give my love freely. Without conditions. Yet, I ask that you recognize, receive and value my love for the priceless treasure it is. Treat it with care. Treat it kindly.
If you can’t/don’t/won’t, I must protect my love from being turned into a transaction: By you. By me.
Love is NOT earned. That said, you must earn another’s TRUST. Then, and only then, will you granted access into another’s heart.
Be careful, beloveds. Most good-hearted folk liberally bestows trust on folk thereby giving their love every which way. Then, when their heart is broken by transactional folk, they will lock their heart away.
Be careful with Love. Love is so strong it makes Itself fragile so the recipient can experience what unconditional love fills like.
Unconditional love is a beautiful thing. It feels amazing while giving. It feels wonderful when received fully.
I’m doing my best to love folk. As best as I can. I am also understanding that I can’t afford to keep giving my love to those who treat it callously.
We have all been much too careless and carefree with and about love. I’m learning to value her more and more.
I know this was a bit lengthy. I wanted to do justice to the subject. I fear I have communicated clumsily.
I have given what I have…my love. I hope it was enough for some.
Cassandra
#YourLifeMattersToMe
Note: I long for the days when folk looked upon one another with care and not just another transaction to get something from…
One step.
One step.
One step.
You are loved.
You are NOT alone.
Keep on being…YOU!
- COME SIT AT MY TABLE 🪑❤️🩹
- BELOVEDS, YOU CAN HAVE MY FLOWERS. I DON’T NEED THEM ANYMORE.
- Forgive them, Cassandra, God said to me
- Still In Love
- REAL TALK: DESPISE NOT SMALL BEGINNINGS, BELOVEDS.👘🦺🥾👟🥿👞🩴👢🩰👡⛑️🔌🕯️🔎🖌️🖋️📢
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