Life has been full of nothing but Yes or No, lately.
Will you give up?
Yes or No?
Will you keep trying?
Yes or No?
Will you keep on reaching out even when folks fail to respond?
Yes or No?
Will you continue to get out of bed and do what you can?
Yes or No?
I have said Yes, more than I have said No. That’s good. I think…lol.
I have said No a time or two or three…hahahahahahahahahaha!
How are you answering YOUR questions, beloveds?
asking for A Friend, Cassandra
#YourLifeMattersToMe
Note: There are no victims around here, eh? We make our choices. Yes, life wops us upside the head. Yet, we STILL get to CHOOSE yea or nay when it comes to acting ten kinds of fools.
It was on my heart to get up and encourage folk. Initially, I said ‘No’. What the world else did folk need to hear that I have not already said????…*sigh*. I got up. I encouraged. Which ended up encouraging me.
Right now, some chocolate chip cookies and milk are asking me…hahahahahahahahahaha.
Don’t pay me any mind, beloveds. I am currently on self punishment for freaking out and choosing to stand on fear instead of FAITH.
Sooooooooooo, now I am in the midst of vacuuming, changing sheets on my California King(Me and Cali absolutely DESPISE one another on sheet changing day!…*pout*), extra laundry(I made myself do laundry the other day for some foolishness I had done). I may or may not be adding scrubbing the toilet…depends on if I piut my way through the initial chores.
It truly has been helpful learning NOT to immediately jump to anger or conclusions when life is being especially mysterious and lifery.
Before, I would waste hours fussing at God for allowing this, not allowing that, letting those things happen. An absolute waste of hours. Smh.
Yesterday, I found out some upsetting financial news I had not considered. Geeezzz!😳
Instead of praying about things, or considering what I could DO, I opted to press the panic/what in the fresh hell button.🚨🌊
All that did was to send my blood pressure through the roof…
I called my big bro and cried all over him…
I called my wombie and cried all over her…
I tried to keep my promise to me in encouraging others when life was being too lifery. Got mad at yall, for no reason, and kicked the world to the curb so I could have a nice woe is me pity party…
Had said pity party and spent the day in bed to properly feel sorry for myself…
I went to bed. I rose. Asked myself what good did I do wasting an ENTIRE bed conjuring up EVERY dastardly thing that could happen to an innocent old lady…*sigh*
Then, I rose. Stood ten toes down on FAITH, made a cup of ☕ coffee, then put myself to work. I figured I may as well use this anxt for my good.
Now, I have uplifting music playing and have allotted myself a few minutes to encourage someone to keep standing ten toes down on your FAITH. This is but a brief moment in our lives.
Be encouraged. Keep reaching out. Keep doing what you know and KNOW your try WILL work out in the end. These trying times WILL end. The important thing is how you will be left once they have left. I plan to be better, not bitter. I plan to be hopeful, not hopeless.
How will YOU be, beloveds?
asking for A Friend, Cassandra
#YourLifeMattersToMe
Note: Life really is how we make it. I made yesterday absolutely miserable. Today, I have made a peaceful and chore-filled day. I may allow myself some cookies and milk later…lol. Who wants to join me?
Good morning, beloveds. I just wanted to send some hugs and some cheers.
How is your heart doing today? Are you looking out for your heart, today? Have you gotten in some me time? Be sure to get it in there, okay?
We don’t spend near enough time with ourselves. Many are afraid to. They are afraid to be alone with their thoughts. Thoughts can get a smidge terrifying can’t they?
Don’t be afraid to get to know YOU. Folks are forever trying to get the attention of others. Spend some time with just you. You will be amazed at all the fantastic things going on in that head of yours.
Take the time to get to know YOU. I have been amazed at all the ramblings running around, in my head. Serious things. Super silly things. Thoughtful things. Inspiring things. Sad things. Peaceful things.
I am learning how to take a breath, take a breath, and just take things in. Just cuz. Just cuz life wants to be life and hang out with me.
Be sure to get in some ‘just cuz’ time, would you please? Your heart needs the rest. Your heart needs the love.
Have an amazing Thursday, okay?
asking for A Friend, Cassandra
#YourLifeMattersToMe
Note: I hear a cup of coffee hollering for me. Who is up for a cup?
Keep moving FORWARD. Even as you don’t know where.
Keep looking UP. Even with a heavy head/ heart.
Ah, beloveds, you are NOT alone. The Universe walks alongside you carving love in the sand! Be encouraged.
asking for A Friend, Cassandra
#YourLifeMattersToMe
Note: I love you. So does He. Today has been a real struggle to stand ten toes down. Took an extra cup of coffee…lol. Standing! Still! Quit is NOT in our itinerary for today…hehe.
Another half day wasted, er, wading through fake job listings. Crapola.
Instead of throwing the phone out the window, I turned on some praise music and decided to work on some pieces. Good for you, eh?
I promised myself I would love on some folk when life was really cutting up for me. Why waste all this hard, fretting and worrying, when I could be loving on folk?
I CHOOSE to love.
I CHOOSE to have faith.
I CHOOSE to enjoy my day. Even the hard, gooey center.
Life is going to life, beloveds. What are you DOING with your life as hard rains down on you? The rain is going to come down anywho. How will you find yourself AFTER the rain?
Resilient?
Resistant?
Reactive?
Radioactive?
You get to choose how you will spend your day. Choose to make it a joyous one. I am blasting my music and being thankful for my hard. What say you?
asking for A Friend,
Cassandra
#YourLifeMattersToMe
Note: When you find yourself upside down, do the opposite. Don’t let mad run the show. Don’t let frustration run the show. Don’t let your feels run the show. Turn the day into something positive. Be encouraged.
One step.
One step.
One step.
You are loved.
You are NOT alone.
Keep on being…YOU!
If this piece encouraged you, share it with someone please/thanks.
Like the inevitable fool, who is forever, foolishly, trying to shove a square peg (circumstances), through a round hole(situation), I have been trying to navigate my world perfectly.
Such a fool’s errand. Smh.
Don’t judge me too harshly. I suspect you have/are doing the same thing…lol.
The longer I live, the less I worry about being perfect. All I can do is to give and to be my best.
I’m content with my try. Today.😆🥰
Be content with your try, beloveds. All you can do is all you can do. Your all IS enough. YOU are enough.
asking for A Friend,
Cassandra
#YourLifeMattersToMe
Note: You don’t have to be perfect, beloveds. You just have to be…YOU! Isn’t it fantastic to KNOW you are enough?!
One step.
One step.
One step.
You are loved.
You are NOT alone.
Keep on being…YOU!
If this piece encouraged you, share it with someone please/thanks.
When you are feeling your lowest, lift up your head.
When you are feeling the most hopeless, lift up someone else.
When you are feeling the most discouraged, move your feet FORWARD.
When you are feeling the most discouraged, keep looking UP.
Move FORWARD, beloveds.
Look UP! Don’t look down. There is nothing underneath your feet but despair. Enjoy the wall. Look at the beautiful sky. Feel the sun shining down upon you.
Look around at the beautiful life you ARE building. It’s NOT a pile of rubbish and rubble. The foundation you are building is being built on FAITH, not fear and dread.
The Universe is forcing me to walk this highwire without a net. Why? So, I can learn:
Trust.
TRUE faith.
How to reach out for help.
How to RECEIVE/ACCEPT help.
How to keep fighting for my dreams.
See, beloveds, The Universe allows these tough things to get us to toughen our resolve. God don’t give us pillows when we think we need them.
God knows it is much more important for us to CHOOSE what we will and will not try or do. It is in the CHOOSING and the DOING that WE change our mindset, first. Our outlook, second. This then changes our circumstances.
The Universe could have opened Its wallet long time ago. Which would have, temporarily, given me money. But, I would have remained in a fear-filled rut.
I am dealing with these fears: Fears of loss, fears of losing, fears of growing older, fears of growing older alone.
I have had to deal with my why: Why I write. Why I love to encourage. Why I care so much.
I love because He first loved me. Period. End of story. I know this may be an eye roller for some. I can live with that.
I love you, beloveds. If you are reading these words, I love YOU. You need to know you are thought of. You are cared for. You are cherished.
Be encouraged. If you are truly in a tussle with life, just know it’s for your good. Life really is working for your good.
Stop getting on yourself so much. This hard is NOT your fault. Even if it is, you can still grow from it through your choices and actions.
asking for A Friend, Cassandra
#YourLifeMattersToMe
Note: Lift up your head. You can’t see the sun looking down…
What has been sooooooooo hard to move out of the comfort zone?
ME!!🫣
Yikes!
I have NO idea why The Universe waited until I was 55 to spring THIS particular brand of hard on me. When I was younger, I was much too dumb to fret about life being hard. Like a dummy, I blithely made my way through a world ready to rip my face off. Ah, youth. Wherefore have thou gone?
Now at 56, I challenge myself to NOT go back to fearing life because of my age. 56 looks good on me. I think so.
I am looking forward to making my world famous chili this afternoon. I no longer allow myself to lay down on fear and anxiety. Nope, they are no longer welcome in my bed, in my head, or in my actions.
It’s growing cold. I did not want to take out the trash. I took out the trash. It helps to keep it moving when the very last thing you want to do is to keep it moving!
Beloveds, seize THIS day. Don’t wait until tomorrow. Laugh in THIS day. Love in THIS day. Reach out for love in THIS day! Ah, beloveds, life is much too short. We got thangs to do, remember?
How to stop blaming hard for being so blasted hard.
I’m learning to process then keep it pushing. No matter what.
It’s a good thing! Wading through all these scam jobs, whilst trying to find legitimate work, just before the holidays has been especially challenging.
It has also been especially challenging allowing myself to heal prior to returning to work.
Honestly, I could use another six months. Financially, I have no options. I’ve paid all of December’s bills with the last of the savings. Egads!
This has been such a learning process. I am appreciating ME now. Now just my try and contribution to the world.
I wish more folk would take the time to process, to feel, to move forward and not stay stuck because things are familiar.
I don’t blame them. I still fight with wanting to rush back to that familiar coffin. Yes, I was stifled. Yet, I KNEW it’s boundaries and limitations. I sometimes miss those boundaries and limitations.
Keep pushing forward, beloveds. Process the hard. Try not to spend too much time angry about the hard.
If I gave into angry at every hard thing, I would be angry every day. Life is much too short for that.
Getting older makes this hard appears to be harder than it is(?).
I’m trying to wait out hard. Geez, but you would think hard would be exhausted by now…lol.
Be encouraged. We got this. Kind of.
asking for A Friend, Cassandra
#YourLifeMattersToMe
Note: If you are questioning where you are going, if you are hesitant of every unknown step, you are EXACTLY where you are supposed to be. Enjoy the walk. Take in the fresh air. Enjoy the clouds. Feel the cool breeze. There is more than the hot sun beating down on you.
Life has not been playing with me. Goodness and gravy!…*stamps foot*
I have been doing my best to take things in stride. I must admit life broke my heart yesterday…*sigh*.
For a brief moment, life opened it’s bounty to me. Then, cruelty snatched it back and laughed…*sigh*.
I kept my mouth shut. I went to bed early. I told night I would bring joy to the day, tomorrow.
I did. I kept it moving. I left the hard of yesterday, with yesterday. Today is a different day. I am a different me.
It’s not easy to reframe hard things. It’s sooooooo easy to give in to the pout. It’s much too easy to give in to a victim mentality. I choose faith.
Keep getting up, beloveds. Giving up is NEVER an option. Rest as you must. Then, get back after it.
No one wants to go through adversity. No one wants to be tested. No one wants to hold themselves accountable. It saddens me how many folk want to lay around waiting for others to make their way easy…*sigh*.
Stop pouting about it and be about it. Utilize your faith. Keep trying. Keep moving. FORWARD. Keep looking UP. Keep seeking answers. Keep on keeping on.
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