Category: Inspiration

The Universe called me a liar.

There’s nothing like a natural disaster that can shake some sense into you.

Literally.

Fresh hell.

Before the tornado, I had been lying to myself. I was unhappy at work. Not happy WITH work. Just not happy because I have wanted to move on.

Except, I have been too afraid to move on. I have been afraid I wouldn’t find something else. I was afraid I would not be chosen because of my age, my race, my you can add whatever you want here.

A week ago, I was presented with a choice. No choice really. I could force myself back to work or I could choose my mental health and step away.

I chose my mental health. I stepped away. In stepping away, beloveds, I have set off a war within.

All because The Universe called me a liar. How rude!

I had convinced myself I could remain, at work, and continue to ‘fake it til I make it’. I told myself I could. I told myself I could continue to pretend I could be satisfied with what I was doing.

The Universe said:

Ha!

Liar!

Fraidy cat!

Defiant, I told The Universe to kick rocks. Then, I apologized and went about reclaiming the truth.

I’m tired. I’m ready to move forward. I’m ready to move in another direction. I just don’t know which direction to move towards.

I guess WHERE I move is not as important, beloveds, in THAT I move, eh?

I have moved. Now, I wait. I am giving myself a month just to rest and to breathe. A week in and I am ready to run away from home just to get away from this restless me. Ack!

I won’t pretend anxt has not visited me in the past few days. It has. I keep telling my anxt to take two seats and go away from me!

I am on my second cup of coffee. I think I may have a spot of tea. Who wants to join?

asking for A friend,

Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: Life is short. Best to stop wasting time lying to ourselves about what we are truly feeling and hoping for. I am thankful I FINALLY made the decision to move. I spent more time miserable, at work then working.

Be encouraged. Move. In any direction. Just move. Your heart will whisper to you where it has been hankering to go. The Universe will let you know if you are lying to It and yourself. Get going, beloveds. You have folk who are waiting to love you. You have friendships to experience. You have boundless joy to run into. You have sooooooooooooooooooo much ahead of you. Your life is NOT over. It’s not.

The hard shall have it’s end. In the meantime, keep looking up. Keep getting out of bed. Keep being good to yourself. Keep showing care to one another. Life is hard. For all of us right now. Yikes. In case no one has told you yet today: I love you. So does He. Jesus says ‘hi’.

One step.

One step.

One step.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!

Give yourself permission.

Give yourself permission.

Give yourself permission to fail.

Give yourself permission to try.

Give yourself permission to rest.

Give yourself permission to stay.

Give yourself permission to do absolutely nothing.

Give yourself permission to ‘be lazy’.

Give yourself permission to be loud.

Give yourself permission to be silent.

Give yourself permission.

You do NOT have to ALWAYS being doing what you THINK is expected of you. Put down the weight of your own expectations. Put down the weight of the expectations of others.

Give yourself permission to be whatever the world your heart feels the need to BE. Just BE. Folk are so worried about what others may think of them being they forget to just be.

Enough with that!

Kick rocks, expectations. Our expectations are from Him. And, ALL God asks for us to do is to try. That’s it. We do NOT have to be perfect. We do NOT have to walk this earth all dolled up and lovely.

There are times when we feel like running around in sweats and having a bad hair day. Give yourself permission, beloveds, to have a bad hair day! God loves you. Just as you are.

And, if folk in your life can’t love you when you are in scrubs, sweats, shorts, frumpy clothes they are just not the right ones for you.

Kick off those high heels. Put down your bajillion dollar hand bag and go grab a burger at a fast food restaurant or something!

Too hooey with having to have a billion dollar mansion before folk will love you.

And, for the beautiful men and women out there, STOP treating yourselves like trophies! You are NOT! it is NOT your fault God made you beautiful. You are much more, though, tha your outward beauty. STOP allowing folk to parade you around like Barbie and Ken dolls! Yall have much to contribute.

Men, STOP allowing yourselves to be the wallets of the world! Yall are amazing. Yall are deserving to be loved. Give yourself permission to tell a woman to get out of your Porsche if that’s ALL she sees you for! What’s more, you do NOT need to be in a damned Porsche to be valued. There will be plenty of women who will love you for the amazing man that you are. Get to know YOU, beloveds. You have much to share.

Women, good grief, put down the damned Tik Tok and get to know YOU, again. You do NOT have to compete with jillions of Tik Tok folk who are faking it! Stop wasting all your money on stupid organizers and all kinds of junk you are told you need to be happy. Give yourself permission to just be you.

Married folk, STOP listening to a world dumb enough to try and make it a shame for folk to be happily married. Love your husband. Love your wives. Love your kids. Even when everyone is acting like a moron. It’s what families do. We drive one another up ten walls and back.

Christian folk, STOP listening to a world gone crazy who are trying to talk you out of YOUR faith. Keep walking. Give yourself permission to love folk and tell them to kick rocks, without apologies.

Sports starts, STOP listening to dummies who have never picked up a ball or have worked as hard as you have. ENJOY your money. You have earned every dollar. Get your bag!!

Content creators, STOP chasing algorithms! Do YOU! Be YOU! What benefit does it do for you to make a bajillion dollars creating content only for click bait sake?

Young folk, STOP apologizing for being young. Yall are NOT lazy. Yall are NOT entitled. Yall are just smart enough to have recognized the trap us old folk fell into regarding working ourselves to the end of our lives. Give yourself permission to figure out YOU. Give yourself permission to listen to some of us oldies as we have much we can share and teach you. Give yourself permission to pursue excellence. Give yourself permission to learn the value and joy in hard work.

Old folk, STOP working yourselves to death! STOP chasing the ridiculous dream of piling up billions of dollars to make you happy. Look around you! You have ruined many a relationship chasing the dollar bill. Enough already. Put down the plow, pick up some flowers and romance somebody! Give yourself permission to dream. Then, get on up and do.

It’s high time, beloveds, we ALL get some act right and give ourselves permission to start living. Enough of this existing and barely scraping by life tired, exhausted and discouraged.

Okay, I think I have covered everyone. If not, someone else take up the mike and help us all get some act right….lol.

asking for A Friend,

Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: Life is short. What in the fresh hell are you waiting for?

One step.

One step.

One step.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!

BBQ cookout: Things are NOT what they seem.

Life keeps handing out baskets of nasty, er, 🍋.

I’m tired of it.

Tired of life being so darned lifery.

Craig suggested a BBQ cookout. I agree. Life is just toooooooooooo short to be cowering under the covers because life is being a big meanie.

Be encouraged. Let’s have a laugh and a cookout:

🍇🍉🥭🥩🥓🍔🥪🥘🍲🫕🥗🧂🍤🥧🍦🍡

Remember, you are not responsible for outcomes. You are not responsible for the actions and outcomes of others.

You are NOT to blame when life has turned things upside down and you have no idea which way is up.

I have declared a moratorium on being about being about it. This is a day to rest. Not wait. Just rest. The rest truly WILL come out in the wash.

In the meantime, we eat!

resting I think,

Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: Be encouraged. Yes, we sick and tired of hard. But, ALL things shall, will and do work together for our good. Don’t get mad at me for saying that. God said it. I believe it. That settles it.

In case no one has told you today: I love you. So does He.

One step.

One step.

One step.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!

I am not strong: Your five loaves and two fish.

I have been taking inventory.

Things sure seems awful(ly) empty.

Not many pennies in the bank.

Not much energy in the tank.

I find myself empty.

I have been emptied.

By life’s events.

All I have I have given. I tell myself it is enough.

IT is.

It’s MY loaves and fish. Given to God. To break up and make up for all the short falls. For Him to turn into miracles for myself and others. For HIM to multiply. For HIM to do with. As He please.

I have done the work.

I have done MY work.

All we are required to do, beloveds, is try. Do what we can. Where we are. With what we have.

The outcome(s) is not up to us.

Give what you have. Do what you can. Then, move forward. Onto new adventures. As for the outcome. No matter. Whatever. Let it do what it do. We got thangs to do.

I am learning to live in the moment. I love folk and keep it moving. If love is returned, fantastic. If not, God loves me. Plus, I am NOT alone.

Jobless I am. Hopeless I am NOT!

I am:

Moving forward.

Looking up.

Reaching out.

Speaking of reaching out:

How is your heart?

Are you resting?

Are you okay?

What do YOU need?

asking for A Friend,

Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: Be encouraged, beloveds. You do NOT have to be strong. Neither do I. I hear a cup of coffee calling. Craig, I have some tea for you. Who wants to join? Also, I am still waiting for some Texas BBQ….lol.

One step.

One step.

One step.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!

No regrets, God said to me.

Me: If only I had done this.

God: Did you?

Me: No. If only I had tried that.

God: Did you?

Me: No. If only I had gone there.

God: Did you?

Me: No.

God: Why then are you wasting your now, lamenting about things not done then? Will doing this change your present?

Me: No.

God: NO regrets, beloved. You have done your best with what you have had. Besides, I have factored even your fear(s) into your equation. You are EXACTLY where you are supposed to be. Be encouraged.

Me: K

I have been fighting and arguing with Reality for the past two days. Since having submitted my letter of resignation. Effective immediately. Fourteen and a half years.

The Universe has been cajoling me to take the leap. God has been asking me to take the leap of faith. Life has been imploring me to take the leap of belief. In Me. In the fact that I CAN. That I WILL. If only I take the chance on me.

So, closing my eyes and opening my heart, I lept.

Where? I have NO idea. It will be interesting to find out.

finding out what’s next,

Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: I am reflective. I was a bit anxious. Until I climbed up onto The Father’s Lap and sat with Him.

I don’t know HOW to rest. I will have to learn. I am trying to give myself a month off before jumping back into the work fray. I find myself fighting to NOT try and obtain work immediately.

Work used to be my identity. Working hard was my everything. If I was not working hard and successfully, I felt as though I was not pulling my weight. I didn’t think I mattered much if I was not doing, going, giving, giving, doing, going. Rinse. Repeat.

Now, I don’t regret doing those things. I love doing so. I have just had to learn there is sooooooooooooooo much more to me than what I have, than what I do, then where I will go or be. I am loved. Period. As are you.

Beloveds, you don’t have to wait for a tornado to blow your entire life down. You can take the time, right now, to make changes. You can take the time, right now, to ask yourself what YOU want to and CHOOSE to do with the rest of your lfe.

Beloveds, the rest of your life is passing, right now, as you read these words. Are you doing what you have longed to? If not, what in the fresh hell are you waiting for?! Let’s go!!! Asking For A Friend.

One step.

One step.

One step.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!

I am not strong: Life kicked me in the hiney.👢

Life: 👢

Me: Ow.

Life: 👢

Me: Ow!

Life: 👢

Me: OW!! 😳😡

Life: 👢

Me: 😭🤬

Life: 👢🥊👢👢🥊🥊👢🤯🤡🥊👢

Day/Night: 🤼‍♀️.  You may want to spend less time wrestling with us, and more time addressing Life kicking your hiney. Not saying, just saying…

Me: K.

Life has been kicking my in the hiney for quite some time. Trying to get my attention. Trying to get me to move. Trying to get me to act in faith. Trying. Trying. Trying.

All the while, beloveds, I have been a trying soul for Life, for God, For The Universe to deal with. I have, had, been getting on my own last nerves.

I have been fighting.

Fighting me.

Fighting with me.

Fighting within me.

The me, with all the dreams, has been fighting with the me who had always been told she never could/would/should have all God, Life and The Universe had been preparing for me since before I was born.

For years, I have been wanting/needing to move forward. Onward. Somewhere!

Yet, I kept repeating lines others have whispered to me for the whole of my life:

“You never will”

“You never can”

“You are not enough”

“You don’t have”

“You won’t ever have”

“You can’t do THAT”

“You will never make it through THIS”

It’s not even that I believed them. It just seemed easier, somehow, to listen to them. Which led me to stop believing. In me. I stopped fighting. For me.

God knew this. Which is why He and The Universe kept sending Life to kick my hiney until I began to fight back.

For me.

With me.

Within me.

Now, beloveds, I fight with all that is within me. Bless His Holy Name.

Ah, God. Thank You for helping me to fight back.

Oh, Universe. Thank You for convincing me I could/can/shall/will.

Ow, Life. Thanks. Geeeeeeeeeeeezzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz!

grateful for lessons learned,

Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: Life is short, beloveds. Best get to living it. It’s time to stop allowing yourselves to be ruled by fear instilled by others. By fears fueled by you. By fear coming from not knowing what comes next.

Ah, beloveds. You CAN. You WILL! The ONLY way to find out is to actually get out there and find out. I have. More about that in upcoming posts. Let’s go!!!! Asking for A Friend. In case no one has told you today: I love you. So does He.

One step.

One step.

One step.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!

You got this.

You got this.

You can do this.

You can have this.

You shall overcome this.

You shall rejoice and be glad in this.

You will receive this.

You will experience this.

What is the this I speak of?

God knows and He’s not telling.

Get out there and find out all He has in store for you.

getting this with you,

Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: You got this. Now go get it! Asking for A Friend.

One step.

One step.

One step.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!

What are you waiting for?

What are you waiting for?

Who are you waiting for?

What are you hoping for?

When are you thinking of going?

How long before you allow yourself to get going?

What are you waiting for?

asking for A Friend,

Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: Go, beloveds. You got thangs to do.

One step.

One step.

One step.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!

Uprooted: Overcoming me.

I am overcoming, beloved.

I am overcoming:

Me!

I am overcoming:

Fear.

Doubt.

Dread.

Scared.

Sad.

Mad.

Circumstances.

Situations.

Machinations.

Mechanics.

Mentals.

Incidentals.

Accidentals.

All things.

Everything.

I absolutely REFUSE to allow ANYTHING to cause bitterness or lack of faith to grow anywhere near me or inside me.

Nada.

Nope.

Not going to have it!!!!!

What has changed?

Me.

Me!

ME!!

As I have been forced to fight FOR me, because God has been so damned silent, I have learned to just try, to just keep it moving and let the rest take care of itself.

The bible says, in Isaiah 26:3 – YOU will keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on You, because he trusts in You. Which means to keep focusing on HIM. He shall keep us in perfect peace.

Now, for the non believers, I still pray perfect peace for you. We all fam, eh?

We are not alone.

We are loved.

How can we NOT be uplifted?

I am overcoming me. I’m sure this shall be the case for the rest of my days. No matter. I got time. I think…lol.

Be encouraged. Keep overcoming you. Don’t let you be the reason things don’t happen in your life. Try. Live. Love. Hope. Rejoice. Do. The rest SHALL come out in the wash.

I know it’s discouraging not hearing or receiving the way we think we would have, should have or could have. I am doing my best to ask and then joyfully receive what is given. Period.

Sooooooooooooooo, beloveds, I hear a large cup of coffee calling. Who is joining me?

asking for A Friend,

Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: We are more than conquerors. Get to conquering!

One step.

One step.

One step.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!

Uprooted: Go anyway.

It’s time to go.

Somewhere.

Somehow.

Some kind of way.

My heart absolutely REFUSES to stay, in THIS spot, for one more second. Nope, she says it’s time to get out of here. She doesn’t know how. Frankly, she could care less.

My heart could care less about my 55 year old whining, complaining, what if it doesn’t work out self. Ha, my heart says. Let’s go.

So, I go.

Geeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeez.

going even though I have NO idea where/what/when/how,

Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: I am excited. I am anxious. I am ready, though. Life is short. I am taking a leap of faith. I am leaping, beloveds. For ME. Pray for me. Leap with me. For YOU. Asking for Your Friend.

One step.

One step.

One step.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!