Category: Inspiration

Real talk: If folk threaten to walk away, wish them well and let them.

Ah, beloveds. Life has been cutting up, today. ALL day.

I have been fighting, all day, with:

Missing mom.

Missing mom.

Missing mom.

Which, makes the day(s) especially tough to get through. I HATE days like today. Not the day, itself. Just the fight from having to keep on fighting. Just the stress from doing my best not to stress. Just the frustration from not allowing myself to remain frustrated due to happenings and happenstance.

I have been thinking about Justin. ALL day. Wondering if he is hanging in there. Hang in there, Justin!

I have been thinking about Britta and her lichen. I HAVE to get to her blog, tomorrow, and catch up.

I have been thinking about Silent Knight. ALL day. Wondering what he has been wondering about as not able to get to his blog in the past week. Ack!

I turned off my phone, beloveds, this past Saturday. Even, my writing phone. Yeppers. I told myself that I HAD to decompress. I have been running on empty, for weeks. For months.

I told my friends/fam I was going to go MIA. They said they understood. Ha! Soon as I made my declaration, my phone blew up with texts and calls that HAD to be taken.

Yet, for the first time, ever(!), I listened to my heart and told myself to turn off the phone. To rest. And, to not feel guilty/bad because I NEEDED a break. A friend texted and said they ‘had’ to talk to me. Right then. Immediately. I had nothing. So, I said nothing.

Today, I was confronted with my meanness in having chosen me. I was advised that this person could ‘leave just as well as they stayed’. Simply because I was not available in the instant required.

I replied:

“I wish you well. I shall keep you in prayer. You shall NOT hold our friendship hostage. You may have it”.

Care is a two way street, beloveds. STOP giving your care away to folks who place conditions upon your love and your heart. Wish them well and keep it moving. LET them go. You are:

Amazing.

Awesome.

Amazingly awesome.

There will be plenty who will love you. In the meantime, keep on loving this hard headed world. Folk need what you have. Be encouraged.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!

caring anywho,

Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: Your life is precious. You matter. Please KNOW this. You matter. Be encouraged. I love me some you.

Be your own influencer.

Okay, beloveds, permit me to go on a mini rant. Just a teensy weensy one.

In surfing YouTube I have come across soooooooooooooooooooo many pages of folks who need to be ‘influenced’ into what to think, buy or do. And, apparently, one MUST be associated with just THE right type of folk else…*shrug*.

Beats me, apparently, us regular folk are too regular and the only purpose we serve is to serve the ‘privileged’ influencers who are our guide to a ‘successful’ life of hoarding every gadget known to man in order to ‘be happy’.

SMH.

Okay, mini rant is over. I find it terribly sad folks think they are not enough. Just makes me want to kick something.

Beloveds, you ARE enough. Just YOU. You don’t need to fill your place with gadgets you can’t afford, will never use, and will wonder what the world the matter with you for buying such, to have value.

Value is NOT in things. Yes, enjoying your space is nice. That said, the roof over your head does NOT increase or diminish YOUR worth and value.

There are times, like today, where I am not feeling the greatest. Bills keep chasing me. Health issues keep laughing at me. Life keeps passing out fresh what on earth is all this?!

During those times, I would dearly love to be able to hide out on a beach somewhere and have someone feed me grapes and pay all my bills. Okay, I would get bored after a while but wouldn’t mind a good day or so of pampering.

After that, I want to be making my own way, in the world. I want to shake all these young folks and let them know to STOP trying to build a life of dependence on others to pay bills and ‘make them happy’.

I know. I know, young peeps, that old folks do the same. I want to kick them also. Just a smidge.

I love the internet. I love learning about folk from all over the world. That said, I wish I could tell the internet to take two seats, at times. And, to tell it to STOP lying to folk, on the daily!

Life is more than TikTok and Instagram and thisachat and thatachat! Whew. Whew!

I’m done. I think. I’m just doing my bestest to influence folks to think, for themselves. To dream. For themselves. To hope. For themselves. To live. For themselves!

Be your own influencer. What do YOU enjoy doing? Life is short. Do those things that will serve you and enhance your life. What that is, for you, is…*shrug*…up to YOU to decide.

Don’t get down on yourself because folk are not into what you are into. So what? Because someone you have never met, does not care for the things you do…*shrug*. So?

More and more I am hearing folk are ‘miserable’ and feel like a ‘failure’ because things have not happened in two to three years. Things take time.

In the meantime, beloveds, give yourself a break. If you are doing the best you know, good on you. Don’t be ashamed of your current circumstances. Life is good. Even when it gets tough.

Uh, oh! I hear a cup of coffee calling me. Join me, if you like. Bring some snacks.

yammering about not much,

Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: It’s Friday. I was up ALLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL night binge watching Suits. What a fabulous show! Forgive my rambly piece today. I promised myself I would NOT stay up all night. Buuuuuuuuuuuut, Haarrrrvvveeey is sooooooooooooooo cute…lol.

Be encouraged. Keep on being you. Keep on doing you. We shall have an amazing weekend. How do I know? Because we CHOOSE…

One step.

One step.

One step.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

No vacation from pursuing your dreams.

I took a mini vacation.

From work.

So, I could spend some time working on my dreams. I promised myself I would write every day. For the most part, I have kept that promise. In fact, I can’t remember when the last day ended when I had not completed a bit of writing. Something.

I’m trying.

Something.

The other day, I thought of keeping my meanderings to myself. I asked myself who the world is entertained by my particular brand of meness. Then, I shrugged and wrote…lol.

Keep on pursuing your dreams, beloveds. The pursuit IS the point. The destination, the prize, the dream, is becoming more and more irrelevant to me. I have been enjoying unearthing all my want to, all my try, all my effort, all my fears, all my doubts, all my care.

Speaking of vacation, I hear a piece of double chocolate pound cake calling. Take a vacay, from work, and get to working on your dreams. Before that, come have a slice of pound cake before I eat it all.

working on my dreams,

Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: Ask me after I finish my cake….

Heart ♥ check Friday.

What a delicious week!

I have taken the last five days just for ME.

I:

Turned off the phone.

Gave ALL my cares to God.

Delighted myself with whatever I decided was delightful. Turns out all I really needed and wanted was a few days filled with quiet and plenty of coffee and chicken strips.

Now, it’s Friday. One more work day to go then a weekend of rinse and repeat.

For the first time in a very long time, I let it be okay that I rested from telling the world that it’s okay to rest…lol.

It’s okay, NOT to have to do it all, all at once. It only took 50 years to discover this amazing fact.🥰😁

Take care of yourselves, beloveds. There is no one else like you! Let someone know they are loved. Starting with you.

How’s your ♥ heart? Asking for A Friend.

Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: This is your time. Make the most of it…

Fear, you ain’t nothin’ but much ado about nothin’.

Fear, I see you.

Stalkin’ me.

Tryna tell me what and who I will be.

I ain’t sweatin’ you, fear.

You ’bout nothing.

Much ado about nothin’.

Go way from me, fear. You not welcome hear. I got thangs to do!

Yea, boy, I got thangs to do.

I admit it, fear. I WAS afraid. Note, fear, the op’ word is WAS!

Was!!

Ha!

I stand, now, fear.

On:

Faith.

Love.

Hope.

Joy.

Laughter.

Gumption.

I got YOU, fear, on the run.

I be runnin’ thangs, now, fear.

Yasssssssss, fear, go ‘way now, from me.

You are much ado about nothin’.

laughing at fear,

Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: Sometimes, beloveds, you just HAVE to let fear know who is the boss, in your life. Don’t fret. Don’t worry. Keep on walking by faith. Keep on doing all that you know to do. Keep on loving. Keep on hoping. Keep on betting on you!

Your life is far from over. What appears to be your ending is just a new beginning.

Laugh. Live. Love. Sing. Write. Dance. Do. Don’t. It’s YOUR choice. There are NO victims around here.

Be encouraged and know you are loved and not alone. Love someone. Starting with you.

Believe in YOU.

Believe.

In YOU, beloveds.

This world would have you believe you have to have this, have to have done that, to be of any use or worth.

This is simply not the case.

YOU are:

One of a kind.

You are not simply one, of many. You are one, among many, diamonds.

A masterpiece.

It has been said that beauty lies within the eye of the beholder. You are beautiful.

Believe in YOU.

In your gifts and in your talents.

The only one you need to be clout chasing is you.

Your life is NOT an Instagram or TikTok page. This is your life. Live it. For YOU. Recently, I came across a YouTuber who was in tears because her TikTok page had been deactivated. She said this made her worthless. She said she was nothing without her page.

I shall continue to remind folk how very much they are loved and not alone.

Life is much too short for you to continue your downward gaze. Look up. Look up!!

You have all you need, beloveds, ALREADY.

You don’t need more money, more prestige, more clout to live an abundant life.

Life is short. Stop selling yourself short and believe you can and WILL have some joyous moments. How do I know? Because it’s up to you…*shrug*.

Okay, so what the world are you still doing here? Get going.

believing in me,

Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: Time waits for no one. Best get to using what time you have. The world has been waiting on you and your dream. Perhaps, YOU are the last piece I need to fulfill my dreams. What a thought! Hurry, yall. We have a wondrous life to live…

So what. Stay in the game.

Stay in the game.

You may lose.

So what.

Stay in the game.

Critics will judge your outcome.

So what?

Stay in the game.

You may get hurt.

So what?!

Stay in the game!

You may, in fact, lose. Critics WILL judge your try. You might even get hurt.

So what, beloveds.

Stay in the game.

You shall find the winning 🥇 is all in the try.

How?

Great question!

Keep asking.

staying in the game,

Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: Don’t judge yourself by your outcomes. It’s not up to you what Life shall do with your try. Just try. Celebrate your try. Embrace the outcome. Love yourself no matter what. You are more than the 🏆 trophy you won or lost.

One step.

One step.

One step.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!

Who knew?!😳🥰

Wow!

I have been enjoying getting ready for The Superbowl. I love, love, love watching all the pregame bluster and hoopla.

Yesterday, I came across a YouTube channel where there are UK folks who love NFL 🏈 football!😳🤗🥰

Who knew?!🥰🤗

How deliciously fantastic to listen at these folks commiserating about MY football. 😂

I guess it is no different than my love of AFL, which is Australian Football. They call it Footy. For the life of me I don’t half understand it. It seems to be a cross between football 🏈, ⚽ soccer, 🏉 rugby and a whole bunch of running around whilst passing, half tackling and kicking their ball through their goalie stick thingies or some such. I love it!!!

The commentators get to hollering about what the world I don’t know. I just enjoy the joy that the crowd has. I enjoy the enthusiasm of the combatants.

We are all more alike than we are different. I love how sports bring us all together. I pray, daily, that we are all brought together by love and other shared things.

I love that this blog has brought some of us together!

Life is short, beloveds. Love someone. Starting with you. Let me know what YOU enjoy. Big or small. Silly or serious. Don’t leave me rambling alone.

asking for A Friend,

Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: Help me stop waking myself up at night wondering about you. Tell me a story…

Remember:

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!

Here we go!!!!🤗🏈💃👌

Ah, beloveds!

*hugs self*

The reason, for life, is at hand…

The Superbowl!!!

YYYAAAAAAAAAAASSS!!!!

I looooooooooooove The Superbowl!!…lol.

For TRUE sports fans, NFL fans, to be exact, life begins/ends, with THE Superbowl.

Okay, this a bit of exaggeration. But, only by a smidge.😂🥰

I got my love of sports from my mom. She loved sports. 🏈 Football. Basketball 🏀. ⛳ Golf. Nascar. You name it. She loved hollering at the television about them.

Over time, I, too, joined her in yelling at said 📺 television. We commiserated over some foolishness her team or mine had committed.

Once grown, mom and I grew to calling each other:

Mom: Did you SEE what Kobe did?!!

Me: Did you SSSEEEEEEEEEEE what Tiger did??!!!!

Mom: How ’bout them Cowboys?

Me: How ’bout them Cowboys losing again?!!😳

I miss those times. I miss being able to call mom. I miss waiting on her call.

It took several years to force myself into watching sports, after mom passed away. It was just too painful…*sigh*…knowing her call would never come. I just could NOT see a world where mom and I were not yelling at the television 📺 over some sports crime that had been visited upon one of our teams.

I’m glad I forced myself back into living and enjoying sports with her, in a new way.

Now, I yak at her ALL day. Rambling about upcoming games. I prepare pregame goodies and remind her that her team is fixing to get pounded.

I start the game. I yell at said television 📺. I shout to heaven:

Me: Did you SEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE that mom!😳🏈🥰❤️😆

Ah, mom!

That’s what love/joy looks like to me…

Here we go!!!

living, er, enjoying sports with mom,

Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: Life is short, beloveds. Live. If you have lost loved ones and not sure how to keep going, well, just keep going. It’s hard. Impossibly so. Yet, life really does go on. It has to. WE have to.

You may have lost a cherished job. Or friend. Or…I guess the loss doesn’t matter. Loss hurts. We have to move past our losses, beloveds. I am learning how to live. Period.

Outcomes are becoming irrelevant almost. Why? Because life is just toooooooooo short!

Get out there and LIVE. Your heart deserves it. There is much love in store if you are brave enough to reach for it. If afraid, so what?! Reach for love anyway!

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!

For Justin. For me.

Hey there, Justin.

Your comment snatched my heart. Stopped me in my tracks, to be honest.

I have FINALLY dragged myself out of Doritos. Oh, yea, I have not yet had the courage to admit I had dived, just a bit, back into some comfort eating.

Dammit. Crap. Fresh hell.

There are honestly days when I want to tell mom I do NOT care to have to keep caring! Crap!!

I miss mom, Justin. I miss her telling me that I can do it when I KNOW I can’t.

Your comment is a reminder why I MUST keep going. Life is short.

There are days when I have wondered if my try will EVER amount to anything. I wondered this just the other night. After a month of try and try and try and try and try and dammit try some more.

ONLY to find myself fighting with mom grief. Again. Again! Crap. Sorry, mom.

Only yesterday, and again today, I felt inadequate and wondered what I could say that would be of ANY benefit. To anyone. Even to/for me.

Justin, I told myself I would try. That I would give what I had. Even when the giving, the trying seemed of little or no effect.

Keep going, my friend. Your efforts ARE making an impact. Your words lifted a heart in need of lifting. Mine. Others, I am sure.

EACH time, you get out of bed, you win. EACH time, you do even when you don’t want to, you win. EACH time, you tell your try to kick rocks, then angrily try best you can, you win.

Yet, Justin, even when you are too tired to try, you win. How? Why? Because you are loved and not alone.

Justin, you are:

More than you know.

So much more than you imagine.

You CAN:

Do wonders.

Make wonders happen in your life and in the lives of others.

You WILL:

Have exceedingly and abundantly above all that you could ever ask or think.

How do I know? Because, God said so and He does NOT lie. Someone might say that you may not believe in God. So what? I have enough faith for you…😂

Be encouraged, Justin. I have asked the same questions as you. I STILL ask them, at times.

The ONLY difference is that I no longer allow fear, tired, disappointment, lazy or any other thing or emotion to keep me from trying. The outcome is not up to me.

Be encouraged, Justin. You got this. God has you. How much safer/loved could you be?

Keep sharing your heart and being open to love and I promise your heart SHALL be filled.

here,

Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

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Note: Be encouraged, beloveds. We all we got but we all we need, eh? Us and a few billion more peep.

One step.

One step.

One step.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!