My heart has been heavy watching folk tearing each other up for no reason other than they can.
No one seems to want to LISTEN.
Everyone is yelling ‘OW’ but nobody seems to want to stop long enough to ask what is hurting.
Folk seems gleeful of witnessing the suffering of others. My heart does NOT understand this.
We are all better than this.
I just stopped by to encourage folk.
If you can’t find common ground, at least make it safe space.
Listen.
Hear.
Empathize.
Care.
Rinse.
Repeat.
asking for A Friend, Cassandra
#YourLifeMattersToMe
Note: We are all we got, beloveds. But, we are all we need. Life is more than money. Life is NOT climbing over others to achieve. Life is NOT meant to be hoarded just for a monied few.
Let’s give two hoots about one another, eh? Asking for A Friend.
All my life, beloveds, something inside me has been yanking at me. SOMETHING, from deep inside, just won’t let me go.
Why?
Because of YOU. Each and every one of you.
Why?
Because too many of you have never FELT love. Not really. You don’t think highly of you.
Why?
Because you have been chasing:
Approval.
Recognition.
Validation.
Love.
Safety/security.
Worse, you don’t feel as if you measure up enough to have “earned” these things.
Ah, beloveds, know ye not that you are infinitely priceless?
I think it funny that God put these words, this desire, in ME. In a me that had been made to feel worthless, by so many, for so long.
Because, I was loud. Because, I didn’t have enough this, that or the other. Because, I didn’t have money. Because, I didn’t live in the right neighborhood. Because, I wasn’t the right color.
Because. Because. Because. The world will ALWAYS have a because, beloveds. Why? So, you can fall for the okie doke. So, you can fall for the lie that you have to earn your keep.
Hear me:
You ARE worthy. You ARE worth it. You ARE worthwhile! So am I.
The world was desperate to keep me from KNOWING this. It’s the ONLY way it can keep us all locked in prisons of worthlessness.
Without worth, we feel hopeless. Without hope, any can roll up on us and take everything. Ha!
To this day, hopeless tries to slide in my DMs. I tell it to kick rocks!
I am worthy.
I am worth it.
I am worthwhile.
I have been working on this piece for almost two years. It took six months to write the question. It took months for me to ask myself the question. It took forever to find the courage to hear my heart’s answer.
It took 50 years to learn I was much more than the words, the gifts, the skills God gave me. I am awesome just cuz.
As are you! God asked me two other questions. I shall tackle the second tomorrow. The third, okay you get my point.
In the meantime, beloveds, be encouraged. Lift up your head. You are precious to me. And, to Him.
Cassandra
#YourLifeMattersToMe
Note:
In case no one has told you today: I love you. So does He.
Like a big goof, I made the mistake of laying directly underneath the fan. I KNOW better. Smh.
Sure enough, beloveds, I woke with a nasty cold. Day shook it’s head at me and handed me a cough drop. My dreams said “I really hate that for you” and pointed me to my work chair.
Whatever state you find yourself in today, beloveds, make sure to get a laugh or two in there.
Do what you can. If a bit tired, go a bit more slowly.
Have a wonderful day.
asking for A Friend, Cassandra
#YourLifeMattersToMe
Note: What a beautiful day. Enjoy the moments in it.
I was so focused on chasing down my dreams, beloveds, I forgot all about my fever.
I was too busy chasing down knowledge. I was too busy dreaming of touching a billion lives with MY words. I was too busy snatching my dreams into reality.
Focus on your dream, beloveds. All the noise around us is nothing but noise!
Don’t run from disappointment. Sit with it a while.
Listen to it.
Learn from it.
Be fueled by it.
Do NOT quit because of it.
Do NOT fold in the midst of it.
Disappointment is merely a future appointment with God/Life/The Universe.
Don’t cancel!
Wait.
Patiently.
In the meantime, try something else.
I can not tell you, beloveds, how badly I wanted to run back to the comfort zone. I didn’t care how painfully barren it was. I just wanted to STOP being on this razor’s edge of my uncertain present and my unknown future.
Because I thought I had failed, in one area, I wanted to give up in the main area I have always wanted to live and work in.
I chose uncertainty over the known. I chose anticipation over despondency. I chose ME over the dismissive masses.
Don’t run from disappointment, beloveds. Sit with it a while. It may surprise you. You may surprise yourself at your reaction(s)
Until they hear, keep talking. Until it works, keep trying.
Nuff said.
asking for A Friend, Cassandra
#YourLifeMattersToMe
Note: I called about a new modem. The agent clearly did not understand. He blamed the weather. I told him the weather put out the modem. He blamed the apartment for losing power. I let him know everything else was working. He wasn’t trying to hear me. I thanked him for trying.
I called about a new modem. I explained the last agent didn’t understand. I said maybe I had not explained clearly. I explained. She understood. A new modem is on the way.
Communication is not always easy, beloveds. Still, we HAVE to give each other room to misunderstand, to miss communicating, to mess up. Then, we need to give each other some grace.
There will be days when we just don’t hear one another. That’s okay. Let’s make sure we continue to care about and for one another!
In case no one has told you today: I love you. So does He.
