YOUR words matter.
YOU matter.
ALL of you.
Yes, beloveds, even the parts you think boring and of no use. In fact, the parts you love the least, God enjoys the most.
Don’t look upon your precious heart and dismiss the beauty that lies therein. Beauty comes in all shapes, sizes and forms. Beauty comes softly and loudly. Beauty amazes and baffles.
I keep saying these things, beloveds, because I also need to hear these things. For me. 55 keeps laughing at me and telling me who on earth will ever give two figs about an old lady like you?
I tell fear to kick rocks and to shut up. I tell 55 it shall love me soon! I am persistent!
I had to tell myself today that my heart, matters. That my thoughts, matter. That my words, matter.
Why? Because everything inside me was trying to say my words are just words.
Ha!
There is NOTHING just about our words, beloveds. Our words, heal. Our words, inspires. Our words, engages. Our words, changes things. Our words, changes US.
Keep speaking.
Keep trying.
Keep loving.
I know. I know. Nothing seems to be happening, quite yet. Ack!
Be encouraged. Laugh whilst being bored half to death waiting on the miracle called you. God and Life are simply waiting for YOU to see some things. Then, your dreams, my dreams, shall come a calling.
We have it backwards. We think if we get this or that that we will be this or that. Nope. Doesn’t work that way. I am a tad hard headed, at times. Like now. I want my dreams NOW. Right this instant. They have been a long time coming.
I also know, if I had received, back then, I would not be writing as I do, right now.
My way. In an uncommon way. With too many commas. With not enough commas. Cassandra script. Ah. Aha!
Soooooooooooooooo, keep on keeping on, beloveds. No matter how much it hurts to watch your dreams laughing, just out of reach. Keep it moving. Laugh, as well, KNOWING your turn is coming. It is.
In the meantime, continue to look within, look around and look beneath your feet. You are standing on a mountain of diamonds, just waiting to be cashed in by The Universe.
believing with and in you,
Cassandra
#YourLifeMattersToMe
Note: I did NOT want to do this day. Not any of it. I told God, tearfully, I was soooooooooooo tired. Of the hard. Of the strain. Of the much. Yet, I also have found joy, in those things. Still, the exhaustion appeared to outweigh the diamonds. I made myself get up. I made myself do the day. I found myself laughing all day.
To my delight, evening showed up and asked me to dance. Speaking of which, beloveds, I have a date with evening. Enjoy your life. ALL of it. Be well.
You are loved and not alone. You can do this thing called life. You already are.
- SUNDAY WITH CASSANDRA. IT ME!
- MOVIE SATURDAY WITH CASSANDRA🌎🎬👩🏿🦼🍿🌎
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- 🎬 MAYBE THEY WEREN’T “TOO BLACK.” MAYBE I WAS STILL HOLDING THE RULER. 🪑🔑Beloveds,I told you I caught myself watching Black romance movies and thinking:Too loud.Too boisterous.Too Black.😳And the Holy Spirit convicted me.Then I watched Deliver Us from Eva.WHEW.👀Because suddenly I wasn’t only watching Eva.I was looking at the ruler I sometimes used to measure everybody.Let’s start with Eva.She’s intelligent, professional, beautiful, protective, loving, bossy, controlling, loyal and complicated.All of it.🔑She doesn’t have to become either the Angry Black Woman Who Needs Taming or the Strong Black Woman Whose Every Choice Must Be Defended.Eva needs correction AND Eva deserves dignity.She helped raise her sisters after their parents died. Protection became part of her identity.But eventually protection sometimes became control.⛓️ If I don’t manage everybody, everything will fall apart.🔑 I can love grown people without controlling grown people.Her sisters need a key too.You cannot keep handing somebody the clipboard to your life and then get mad because she keeps writing on it.🤣Eva has to stop managing.Her sisters have to start owning.Everybody gets a chair.🪑And YES—THE MEN TOO.🤣🪑🪑🪑🪑Ray begins by deceiving Eva.That matters.But eventually “the problem” becomes a person to him.Eva.And Ray changes.🔑 Sometimes genuinely knowing somebody destroys the caricature we created from a distance.But Ray deserves his own humanity too.He’s working, dreaming, saving, flawed, funny, romantic, masculine and tender.He doesn’t need to become a CEO before he’s worthy of love.There’s that ten-times-better ruler again.👀Then Mike.Mike has a legitimate frustration with Eva’s interference.His solution?SIR. SIT DOWN.🪑🤣Because here’s another key:🔑 A legitimate grievance does not automatically make every remedy legitimate.Pain deserves acknowledgment.Choices still require accountability.Then Tim made me ask:What does a Black man have to look like before we consider him “man enough”?Dominant?Always in charge?Never soft?Never uncertain?Why?Tim doesn’t need more masculinity.He needs his voice.🔑A loud Black woman shouldn’t have to shrink.A quieter Black man shouldn’t have to perform dominance.Both get chairs.And Darrell?🤣Some people are intellectual heavyweights.And some people are…Darrell.🤣❤️HE GETS A CHAIR TOO.Intelligence isn’t the admission price for dignity.Sophistication isn’t the admission price for love.Black people are allowed to be ordinary.Goofy.Messy.Wrong.Funny.Tender.Brilliant.Ridiculous.Rich.Poor.Loud.Quiet.Human.And suddenly the Holy Spirit’s conviction went deeper.Maybe I had become nervous when Black characters weren’t representing us “well enough.”What will THEY think?Why are they so loud?Why aren’t they more polished?More educated?More professional?More respectable?More…acceptable?😳And suddenly I’m not watching a movie.I’m conducting a performance review of Blackness.⛓️That’s exhausting.Because Black characters should not have to carry the reputation of an entire people on their backs.And sometimes, without realizing it—we help load the backpack.That was part of what the Holy Spirit showed me.Not merely:Cassandra, look at them.But:Cassandra, look at your ruler.👀Who handed it to you?Why are you still carrying it?And I knew part of the answer.Ten times better.There was love and survival inside what Black folk taught me.They were preparing me for an unfair world.But:“You may have to be ten times better to receive the opportunity”can quietly become:“Black people SHOULD be ten times better.”NO.❤️🩹I reject that.Black excellence is beautiful.Black dignity is unconditional.Eva gets correction and dignity.Ray gets tenderness and accountability.Mike gets frustration and responsibility.Tim gets quietness and voice.Darrell gets goofiness and dignity.The sisters get love and agency.Nobody has to become less Black.Nobody has to become ten times more human.EVERYBODY GETS A CHAIR.🪑🪑🪑🪑🪑🪑🪑And maybe that’s what the Holy Spirit was really asking me:Cassandra, why are you still holding the ruler?😳My answer?I’m learning to put it down.🔑And maybe you have one too.Race.Education.Disability.Age.Money.Accent.Religion.Politics.Body size.Mental illness.Addiction.Sexuality.Somebody whose life simply doesn’t look like yours.Don’t perform an answer for me.Be honest with you. For, HIM.🙏🏿What ruler are you carrying?Who handed it to you?Who have you measured with it?Have you measured yourself with it too?And if the Holy Spirit is showing it to you, maybe He isn’t giving you the ruler so you can beat yourself with it.Maybe He’s saying:Child. You don’t need that anymore.Put it down.🔑❤️🩹Pull up your chair.🪑Let somebody else pull up theirs.And let people be fully human in front of you.Including—you.👩🏿🦼💃🏿❤️🔥🌎Asking for A Friend,Cassandra#YourLifeMattersToMeNote: One step. One step. One step. You are loved. You are NOT alone. Keep on being…YOU!Unapologetically His.Unapologetically yours.
Why Can't I Be Loud?! 