Author: Cassandra S.

(Hidden) Connections.

16!?

SIXTEEN!!!!????

What the what the?!!!!

🤯😡

My router was acting a fool. I had my provider send someone out. Turns out, there were 16 things connected. My router does not like more than 9, so the technician said, before it would rebel and act a fool.

After resetting things, the technician had me change my password to keep others from using connections they had not paid for and did NOT deserve to use.

Folk are like that: They will take what is not theirs, use folk up and spit them out. All the while leaving others drained and wondering why their connection is so darned slow!

No wonder, beloveds, how long it takes us to get to where we are going. We are tied down to and with hidden connections sapping the very life from us.

It’s important we take stock from time to time to ensure we are not connected to people, places and things which are draining us and taking us away from where we need to be.

I have been using this time to process and remove connections which are hindering me, distracting me, upsetting me, frustrating me, driving me away from standing and acting on FAITH and not being led by the choices, needs and wants of others.

There is nothing wrong with doing for others. We just need to ensure we are doing so out of choice and not guilt. That we are doing so because we choose to and not because we have been told we should, have to, got to or had better.

The main thing I am doing is keeping the main thing the main thing: Being connected to Him. Being connected to The Word. Being connected to The Holy Spirit. Being connected to Jesus. Being connected with my family. Being connected with my friends. Being connected with my community.

Life is much too short to be led about by folk with agendas which does not serve us. And, life is also much too short to only do things because it serves only us. There has to be a balance: Some for you. Some for me. Some for Life. Some for The Universe. Some for God. Some for family. Some for friends. Some for the community.

Getting rid of connections can be hard. We wonder if we will be alone if we get rid of relationships which have never been reciprocal. I desire synergy in relationships. You get some. I get some. Transactional relationships I leave for the bank and restaurants…hahahahahahahahahaha!

Life is short. Take some time to check your connections. What/who are you connected to? Are you serving one another? Is it time to move on? There is nothing wrong with letting go of a relationship that has ended.

I can’t remember who said folk are in our lives for a reason, a season or a lifetime. I am mindful of this. We have no idea who is meant for us for a reason, season or lifetime until we walk with them for a spell.

If for a reason, wish the other person well.

If for a season, enjoy the season, then wish the person well.

If for a lifetime, enjoy for your lifetimes.

What life connections are you allowing? Is there something you are connected to which is draining your spirit? Do you need to break away for a time? Do you need to shut down the connection permanently?

I have a Chocolate Chip Muffin that is screaming for me to disconnect from this laptop so I can enjoy it with a cup of coffee.

Be encouraged. I say this EVERY day. Why? Your heart NEEDS to hear these words at least once a day. Be sure to say them to yourselves, out loud. Be encouraged.

You got this. You CAN. You WILL. I also often say this. Say these words to yourselves. It’s important to feed yourself. On the daily. On the regular.

I am currently chair dancing and filling my heart with uplifting music. Who wants to join me?

asking for A Friend,

Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: Don’t focus on the hard. Focus on enjoying your day. It can become super easy to focus on how hard the day is. The day is just bringing about the greatness locked deep inside. Let it come out. Asking for Your Friend. In case no one has told you today: I love you. So does He.

One step.

One step.

One step.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!

It’s not you.

When life turns things on its head.

It’s not you.

When all hell has broken loose simply because you said you were ready for more.

It’s not you.

When folk walk away after you have let them know your boundaries.

It’s not you.

When folk become upset when you express opinions they asked for in the first place.

It’s not you.

When your job, spouse, friend, family, or others fail to recognize how much you have given/ tried,

It’s not you.

When you dreams keep outrunning your try.

It’s not you.

You given you.

You have given your all.

That is enough.

For those who demand more, show them the door.

Celebrate your try. None of us celebrates our try enough. We are too busy chastising ourselves for not being perfect. Phooey with that!

We care. We hope. We love. We dare try. I think this makes us heroes!

not afraid to be Clark Kent,

Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: Cut yourself some slack. In case no one has told you today: I love you. So does He.

One step.

One step.

One step.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!

Uprooted: You can have the cape, Superman.

I used to be Superman. Rushing in, saving the world, in a single bound.

Problem solver.

Way maker.

Getting in the way maker.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!

I am learning to get out of the way.

I am learning I do NOT have to be Superman.

I am learning that it is fine to NOT be strong.

I am learning to just be.

Me.

I am enough.

Already.

So are you.

Shame on us all for dismissing our greatness because of what we own, what we don’t have, what we don’t possess. Things are just that: Things!

No more judging ourselves by things, eh?

I for one am spending the rest of my days letting folks know they are loved and not alone. I have been doing so for the past three decades plus. Yet, I judged myself, harshly, because I had not built up great stores of wealth so I could ‘prove’ I was not a waste of space.

Ah, beloveds, know ye not you are a priceless soul? There is only ONE you. There is only ONE me. We can NOT be substituted. We can NOT be replaced. We can NOT be copied.

It saddens me that folks are trying to make something of themselves they are not because they believe they are not enough.

Superman can have my cape. I am happy to keep on wearing my Clark Kent glasses. Life is much simpler this way.

I will leave it for others to bear burdens never meant for their shoulders. As for me and mine, I hear a cup of coffee waiting for me. Who is coming with?

asking for A Friend,

Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: Lay aside the weight, beloveds. You ought not bear the weight of the world. Not your job. Let folks do their own work. You have your own thangs to do. Doing thangs with you….

In case no one has told you yet today: I love you. Jesus says ‘What up tho?’

One step.

One step.

One step.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!

I am not strong: Time to feel, Cassandra.

Time to feel, Cassandra.

That’s what God said to me.

NO, I hollered back.

I don’t want to.

Too bad, feels have said to me. They are running around, beloveds, everywhere!

I find them in my sleep. I find them hanging around the coffee pot. I find them in the bathroom. They are in the shower. They have stolen my commas!

My feels are soooooooooooooooooooooo ready, to lament about all the happenings that have befallen me.

I don’t know what to do with them. I don’t know what to do with ME.

Sleep escapes me. Every night.

The next step(s) keeps running up ahead.

Yet, God has been forever silent. Leaving ME to shout liberally and loudly. The silence is just soooooooooooooooooooooooo loud!

I don’t want to feel. Anything. Anytime soon. Anymore.

I am feeling the loss of a job I enjoyed for fourteen and a half years. I’m angry I have not been able to suck it up and go back to work. I am angry I have not been able to trick myself into pulling myself up by my bootstraps so I can keep on going.

I am angry the damned tornado tore up the damned yard!!

I am angry mom is not here to tell me everything is going to be alright!!

I am angry I don’t have a significant other to tell me how significant I am right now. I don’t feel significant!

Fresh hell, beloveds, I am angry. Again! Dammit. Crap. Geeeeeeeeeeeeez.

Just when I think I am okay, I open my door and see all the destruction and start the whole damned angry train all over again!

God, I am angry. Still. Not at You. Just angry. Not because these things have happened to me. Just because they happened at all. To anyone.

Ah, Cassandra. Time to feel.

I am not strong.

weak but here,

Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: I have been unpacking all this mad so I can enjoy the rest of my day. Don’t allow your feels to keep you held hostage. Feel, process, deal with things then move on with the rest of your day.

It’s okay to be angry with losing that which has meant a lot to you. Who cares, why, eh? Losing sucks. It hurts. When loved ones leave, it hurts. When we leave a job, it hurts. When we lose a relationship, it hurts. When we have to move, it hurts. When we have to give up something, it hurts. The reason(s) why does NOT remove the pain.

Yet, God is there for us as we hurt and heal. Even for non believers. For those who have told God to kick rocks, I pray for you, still. I got you, okay? Don’t judge yourself to harshly. Occasionally, I go off on God about why in the fresh hell He has apparently allowed all manner of foolishness to befall us.

Be encouraged, beloveds. I love you. So does He. Love yourselves, okay? I know this sounds like a ridiculous request. It’s not. There was a time, if you can believe it, when I loved everyone in the world BUT me.

This is why I spend EVERY day praying for each and every person who visits this blog. Whether you join, leave, like or roll your eyes, know you are prayed for. EVERY day. I ask for blessings for you and your family. I ask that the way be made straight for you.

I pray and ask God to show you how. I ask God to give you friends who shall walk with you for the rest of your days. I ask that nothing befalls your precious heart. I ask grace for you. I ask peace for your souls. I ask that God opens your eyes so you can see the truly priceless and person you are.

Mostly, beloveds, I ask that God carry EVERY tear you have ever shared and that He sprinkle them upon your dreams to keep them freshly watered and cared for.

Be encouraged. You are loved and not alone. I promise. As did He.

One step.

One step.

One step.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!

I can’t help what I’m given back. I can help what I’m giving out.

I can’t help what I’m given back.

I can help what I’m giving out.

giving all I have,

Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: Nuff said. Love. Here. Now. In the moment. In the meantime. In the hard. In the rain. After the tornado. After the loss. In spite of the challenges. Despite the fear. Because of others. Asking for A Friend.

In case no one has told you today: I love you. So does He.

One step.

One step.

One step.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!

All this and more.

A wink.

A nod.

A hug.

A hand.

A shoulder.

A heart.

A boot to rear end.

We are all of this and more.

Let’s use all that we are to lift the soul of another.

asking for A Friend,

Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: I have been filling 📬 inboxes with love today. Why? I don’t know how many days I have. I am being about being about it. How about you?

In case no one has told you today: I love you. So does He.

One step.

One step.

One step.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!

Whatever happened. Whatever happens.

Whatever happened.

To caring?

Whatever happens.

I shall care for you.

Whatever happened.

To sharing?

Whatever happens.

You can have some of mine.

Whatever happened.

To emphasizing?

Whatever happens.

I shall seek to understand you.

Whatever happened.

Whatever happens.

I am here.

caring for all as best I can,

Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: It saddens me folk have chosen to see different and chosen to see different as detriment. Let’s do better, beloveds. Asking for A Friend. If this touched you, share it with someone. We are all we got but all we need. This world is what WE make it. Let’s make it a beautifully messy tapestry.

One step.

One step.

One step.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!

More than.

We are more than, beloveds.

We are more than a job.

We are more than a wallet.

We are more than a womb.

We are more than a protector.

We are more than a builder.

We are more than a carpenter.

We are more than a healer.

We are more than a comforter.

We are more than our try.

We are more than our faith.

We are more than our gender.

We are more than our vote.

We are a person.

We are deserving of love.

We are immeasurably unique.

We are unquestionably worth knowing.

I just wanted to take the time to let someone know he/she/they are valuable. This society dismisses those deemed unworthy because they don’t have a million followers.

I say to hell with all that. All I have to give is me but you can have all my love. I have plenty as God fills me as I empty my all.

Someone needs to hear that they do NOT have to keep paying rent to The Universe to be loved. You are.

Be encouraged.

asking for A Friend,

Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: I have felt like a worthless idiot since the tornado. Save Mags, my ask for help was for naught. I feel like an idiot. That said, I am proud of me from reaching out. Be encouraged. God HAS heard you. Even though it appears no one on earth has.

One step.

One step.

One step.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!

All I got to give is me.

All I got to give is me.

God said all He needs is me.

I told God all I got ain’t enough for Him.

God said me is more than enough for Him.

All I got to give is me, I said to The Universe.

Good thing, The Universe replied, stating me is all that has ever been asked to be seen.

Life then showed up and asked for what I had.

All I got to give is me, I stated.

Your me is more than plenty, Life exclaimed.

I’m giving me, beloveds.

It’s all I have.

As it turns out, miraculously, I am just what is called for.

So are you.

enough,

Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: In case no one has told you today: I love you. So does He.

One step.

One step.

One step.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!

Your nothing means something to someone.

I feel like nothing today.

I feel as though my efforts have accomplished nothing.

Nothing I have tried seems to have worked.

Nothing I say has moved a thing it appears to me.

It looks as though ALL my try has done nothing but waste the time of everyone.

Except to God.

All day, He has told me that my nothing means EVERYTHING. To Him. I’m not quite sure I believe Him.

Not today.

My bank account is empty.

My inbox is empty.

My tank is empty.

My phone is silent.

My lonely is awfully loud.

I feel like nothing today.

It’s a good thing our feels are not always accurate.

My try is enough.

I am enough.

I just feel like nothing I have is worth much to most today.

Be encouraged, beloveds.

Your try is enough.

You are enough.

What you perceive to be nothing means EVERYTHING. So do you.

Your nothing means something to someone.

To me.

To God.

You are priceless. You don’t have to do a thing to be loved. Just keep on being you. Be good to you. Keep loving you. The rest will come out in the wash.

asking for A Friend,

Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: You are more than what you do. You are more than what you have. There’s only one you.

One step.

One step.

One step.

You are loved.

You are NOT alone.

Keep on being…YOU!