What a deliciously lazy Saturday!

They’re kind with us perfectly okay to let lazy run today. Today is that day.

It’s awesome important to have some you time. To let folks know that you need time to rest and relax. There will always be something pressing. There will always be someone who has a need.

Be sure to be a bit lazy at times. And selfish at times. You can’t get what you don’t have. Don’t let folk make you feel guilty because you’re taking time out for you. It’s necessary.

I was going to leave blogging alone for the day. But I promised myself that I would try to write everyday. Also, you are on my mind. And I was hoping that you were having a good day. So I had to check.

This is not just a blog to me. You are not just an anonymous like or click. Your life matters to me.

Be sure to get some rest today. Do something that will make you smile. I have been watching old movies. Drinking coffee. Eating chicken strips. Fantastic!

What will I do tomorrow? No idea. Tomorrow has not shown up yet. I have learned to live in th moment.

I think I shall go blog visiting. There are some fantastic writers. Be sure to enjoy some of them. Comment on what you like. It helps the creator. It also feels good to be appreciated. I have learned so much by all the bloggers. I learned also from those who comment. I often stealth read their blogs as well.

This has been a long few years for everyone. No matter what luck of life you come from. Financially. Weather wise. Conflicts everywhere.

Life is still good. Continue to move forward. Continue to try. Continue to give yourself some slack and room to grow and to feel.

Take care of yourself. I hear a cup of coffee calling me. Come join us if you please.

chilling,

Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: Keep going. Don’t stop believing. Dreams take time. Sometimes a very long time. Be sure to continue to live in the meantime. Remember you are loved and you are not alone. Love someone today. Starting with you. Starting with you.

• 📫 BE HONEST WITH THEM. FOR, ME. ❤️‍🩹Beloveds,I have been thinking about honesty.Not the kind we demand from everybody else.The kind that requires us to sit with ourselves long enough to tell the truth about what is happening inside us.👀Because sometimes the hardest person to be honest with is yourself.Sometimes we know something hurts, but we keep calling it fine.Sometimes we know we are tired, but we keep calling ourselves lazy.Sometimes we know we need help, but we keep calling needing help weakness.Sometimes we know something has changed, but we keep trying to live as though nothing did.And sometimes we are so busy trying to make everybody else comfortable with our reality that we stop being honest about our own.❤️‍🩹I have had to learn this in ways I never wanted to learn it.My life changed.My body changed.My speech changed.My independence changed.The amount of effort required to do ordinary things changed.And there have been moments when I wanted so badly to be the Cassandra I remembered that I became impatient with the Cassandra who was actually here.But she deserves honesty too.She deserves tenderness too.She deserves patience too.She deserves to be loved without having to pretend that everything is easy.🪑So I am learning to tell the truth.I can be grateful and tired.I can have faith and still have questions.I can laugh and still hurt.I can celebrate progress and grieve what changed.I can be strong and need help.I can love people and still need boundaries.I can forgive somebody and still acknowledge what happened.I can believe God is with me without pretending every part of this journey feels good.Those truths do not cancel each other.They can sit in the same room.Sometimes they can even sit in the same chair.👀🪑And maybe somebody reading this needs permission to stop performing too.You do not have to tell everybody everything.Privacy is not dishonesty.Boundaries are not dishonesty.Taking time before you speak is not dishonesty.But beloved, please find somewhere you can tell the truth.Even if the first place is inside your own heart.Say:This hurt me.I miss what was.I am angry.I am afraid.I need help.I don’t know yet.I changed my mind.I need more time.I am proud of myself.I survived something difficult.I am learning.I am healing.I am still here.🔑Because honesty can be a key.A key that unlocks shame.A key that loosens the chain of pretending.A key that lets grief breathe.A key that allows joy to be real instead of performed.A key that makes room for healing.And sometimes the truth is not:”I have figured everything out.”Sometimes the truth is simply:”I am trying.”And beloved?Trying counts.❤️‍🩹I am learning not to require perfection from myself before I offer myself compassion.I am learning not to make recovery another place where I have to perform.I am learning that one difficult day does not erase every good day that came before it.I am learning that needing rest does not erase determination.I am learning that receiving help does not erase independence.And I am learning that being honest about what hurts does not mean I have stopped believing that healing is possible.It means I stopped requiring myself to lie on the way there.👀So be honest with them when honesty is safe.Be honest with the people who love you.Be honest with the people helping you.Be honest about what you need.Be honest about what you cannot do today.Be honest about what you are learning to do again.But before all of that—Be honest with you.For me.❤️‍🩹Because I want you here.Not the polished version.Not the pretending version.Not the version exhausted from convincing everybody that everything is fine.YOU.The learning you.The healing you.The laughing you.The crying you.The figuring-it-out-as-you-go you.There is room for that person here.🪑Pull up a chair.You don’t have to resolve everything before you belong.You don’t have to perform strength before you are loved.You don’t have to have all the answers before your life matters.Your life matters right now.Exactly here.One step.One step.One step.🔑❤️‍🩹🪑Asking for A Friend,Cassandra#YourLifeMattersToMeNote: One step. One step. One step. You are loved. You are NOT alone. Keep on being…YOU!
• THE CHAIR.
• WEDNESDAY 🌎
• WEDNESDAY 🌎
• MOM, WOMBIE, LET’S LOVE THE WORLD TOGETHER. 🌎❤️‍🔥

It’s important to know your why.

YOUR why!

Why YOU do things.

Why things are important to YOU.

WHY you are doing what you are doing.

Why?

So you won’t be doing someone else’s why. That’s why!…lol.

Too often, beloveds, we do because it’s how it has always been done.

Or, because mom/dad/bro/sis/fam/friend did them.

Or, because the world says so.

Or, because those who secretly mean us no good, says so.

Or…

Enough with the or!

Again, why are you?

Why do you?

Why will you?

Why won’t you?

Why did you?

Why didn’t you?

I’m so thankful that God asked me why one day. I was always raised you don’t question God. You don’t question authority. You just do what you are told regardless.

Once I started asking myself why, I was able to process things better. I was able to make more informed choices. I was able to take ownership of my life. All of it. I stopped being a passive passenger when I came to my dreams. I was active with everybody else’s dream. When I came to my own dreams, I gave up too quickly on me.

Be sure to know your why. So you won’t get sucked into doing the why of others.

Don’t worry if other folks can’t understand your why. I didn’t start my blog for a long time. I was concerned about what folks would think about the words I wrote.

I was concerned they wouldn’t understand me. Or they would understand did not care for my writing style. Or with think that I was being this that and the other thing. Or…

You get the point. I had so many oars in the water I didn’t begin…😂.

I learned just to write. Period. I learned not to be hurt over the lack of likes. I am no longer fueled by likes or the lack of them. I like you. Period. That is enough for me.

Keep doing your why.

Why?

Because the world needs what only you can provide. Your voice matters. You matter. Your why matters.

Why?

Great question! You are asking the wrong person. Ask God and The Universe. The Universe awaits. Off with you!

living my why,

Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: Fight for your why. Never allow yourself to dismiss your why or your try!

• 📫 BE HONEST WITH THEM. FOR, ME. ❤️‍🩹Beloveds,I have been thinking about honesty.Not the kind we demand from everybody else.The kind that requires us to sit with ourselves long enough to tell the truth about what is happening inside us.👀Because sometimes the hardest person to be honest with is yourself.Sometimes we know something hurts, but we keep calling it fine.Sometimes we know we are tired, but we keep calling ourselves lazy.Sometimes we know we need help, but we keep calling needing help weakness.Sometimes we know something has changed, but we keep trying to live as though nothing did.And sometimes we are so busy trying to make everybody else comfortable with our reality that we stop being honest about our own.❤️‍🩹I have had to learn this in ways I never wanted to learn it.My life changed.My body changed.My speech changed.My independence changed.The amount of effort required to do ordinary things changed.And there have been moments when I wanted so badly to be the Cassandra I remembered that I became impatient with the Cassandra who was actually here.But she deserves honesty too.She deserves tenderness too.She deserves patience too.She deserves to be loved without having to pretend that everything is easy.🪑So I am learning to tell the truth.I can be grateful and tired.I can have faith and still have questions.I can laugh and still hurt.I can celebrate progress and grieve what changed.I can be strong and need help.I can love people and still need boundaries.I can forgive somebody and still acknowledge what happened.I can believe God is with me without pretending every part of this journey feels good.Those truths do not cancel each other.They can sit in the same room.Sometimes they can even sit in the same chair.👀🪑And maybe somebody reading this needs permission to stop performing too.You do not have to tell everybody everything.Privacy is not dishonesty.Boundaries are not dishonesty.Taking time before you speak is not dishonesty.But beloved, please find somewhere you can tell the truth.Even if the first place is inside your own heart.Say:This hurt me.I miss what was.I am angry.I am afraid.I need help.I don’t know yet.I changed my mind.I need more time.I am proud of myself.I survived something difficult.I am learning.I am healing.I am still here.🔑Because honesty can be a key.A key that unlocks shame.A key that loosens the chain of pretending.A key that lets grief breathe.A key that allows joy to be real instead of performed.A key that makes room for healing.And sometimes the truth is not:”I have figured everything out.”Sometimes the truth is simply:”I am trying.”And beloved?Trying counts.❤️‍🩹I am learning not to require perfection from myself before I offer myself compassion.I am learning not to make recovery another place where I have to perform.I am learning that one difficult day does not erase every good day that came before it.I am learning that needing rest does not erase determination.I am learning that receiving help does not erase independence.And I am learning that being honest about what hurts does not mean I have stopped believing that healing is possible.It means I stopped requiring myself to lie on the way there.👀So be honest with them when honesty is safe.Be honest with the people who love you.Be honest with the people helping you.Be honest about what you need.Be honest about what you cannot do today.Be honest about what you are learning to do again.But before all of that—Be honest with you.For me.❤️‍🩹Because I want you here.Not the polished version.Not the pretending version.Not the version exhausted from convincing everybody that everything is fine.YOU.The learning you.The healing you.The laughing you.The crying you.The figuring-it-out-as-you-go you.There is room for that person here.🪑Pull up a chair.You don’t have to resolve everything before you belong.You don’t have to perform strength before you are loved.You don’t have to have all the answers before your life matters.Your life matters right now.Exactly here.One step.One step.One step.🔑❤️‍🩹🪑Asking for A Friend,Cassandra#YourLifeMattersToMeNote: One step. One step. One step. You are loved. You are NOT alone. Keep on being…YOU!
• THE CHAIR.
• WEDNESDAY 🌎
• WEDNESDAY 🌎
• MOM, WOMBIE, LET’S LOVE THE WORLD TOGETHER. 🌎❤️‍🔥