While I am working on my dreams, beloveds, I am doing my best to support other folk’s dreams.
In so doing, this has taken some of the hard out of my try. Rather, I’m focusing less on the hard, and more on just BEING.
I just enjoyed writing this morning. I wasn’t concerned about who would stop by. I didn’t fret about who would care about what I had to say.
I wrote. I cared. I enjoyed the writing. I thoroughly enjoyed caring about and praying for folk.
When I was done I prayed:
God, here are my three fishes and loaves of bread. Would you please multiple them, just as Jesus did, when He fed all those people? Help me make a difference. Bless the words You have given me. Help me to remember I am more than what I do. Thank You for caring for us all. Help us to care for one another. Help us make our dreams come true. Amen and Amen.
EVERY day, I ask for blessings for EVERY heart that stops by. I pray for those who shall never come this way.
My dreams were loud, this morning. So much so, later snatched up lazy and tore to the kettle to start the coffee.😳😴😫
Good habits were not having it. They slapped me awake, stuffed smelling salts up my nose, drug me around hot coals and banged pots and pans around until sleep left my brain pan. Ow! Okaaaaay! Geeeeez!
Since I have to get up, beloveds, I figured I would pass on the savings to you.
Get up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Let’s go!!!!!!!!!!!
We in March, beloveds! There are only 12 months to the year and we are already at the end of the first quarter!
Work on YOUR dreams today.
Love hard today.
Leave your best efforts on the field today.
Get off your a-, your uh-oh and DO SOMETHING today. It can be a small something but do SOMETHING.
Make sure to get in your me time. Speaking of which, coffee is calling me. Who is up for a cup?
I stated loudly, my FEELINGS on his WRONG opinion. I went on to explain LOUDLY/PROUDLY why MY opinion was the one I should go with.
In truth, I initially only half listened to what he said. I let my passion take over, and ALL I became concerned with was letting passion have her way in defending what I wanted.
Eventually, I realized he was right, coming from HIS standpoint and other factors he had tried to tell me BEFORE I got my huff and puff on.
Now, I was fighting with TWO, self inflicted issues:
Feeling like I wasn’t allowed to be heard because my voice gets super loud when I am super excited. I’m not angry. The opposite, in fact. I’m excited. I want to share that excitement. In real time. As ME. The EXCITED me.
The only problem is the other side hears a raised voice, especially coming from a black woman, and it is almost automatically silenced as being angry, aggressive and shut down.
My friend did NOT do that. I didn’t give him the chance. I immediately became defensive, which led to me being aggressive.
I recognized this and found my act right.
My second issue was not listening all the way through. I jumped in. With two incredibly loud feet. I defeated the whole purpose of asking for HIS opinion/feedback. Oops. I sowwy, my friend.
I HAVE to give a shout out to him. He could have easily terminated the conversation and left me to my dumbness. He didn’t. He let me explain. He explained back. We moved on.
He was right and helped me see important truths I will need moving forward. He helped me see, and work on, the part of my heart, still smarting, from being shut down by others. By me. I’m still a work in progress.
I just stopped by to help someone BEFORE they blow up a relationship by allowing ego to get in the way.
Your people care. They give their opinion and feedback based on their love for you and concern for your future. The ones who are in your corner, that is.
That’s why it’s important to recognize who is giving the feedback. If a critic, LISTEN. Gather, what truth is there. Leave the rest where it is. Don’t worry about the 🚚 delivery. Take advantage of the gold left behind!
I’m glad I recognized and checked ego. Initially, I just kept saying “No” to what he told me to DO. It was in direct conflict with what I wanted to do.
As it turns out, I will need to do his thing AND my thing. In two separate spaces. I was trying to jam too many things into one section. They won’t fit.
My friend is saving me time, struggle, and 😤 frustration by trying to fit the right thing into the wrong vehicle.
I have been praying for months about which way to go/grow. God used my friend. I almost turned said friend away and added a ton of 🗑 wasted time ⌚ I can’t afford to throw away.
I know this is a long piece. Purposefully so. Sometimes, beloveds, it’s important to take your time and share your HEART, not your anger or past wounds, with a friend.
I share both with you, so maybe you can recognize a bit of a boo boo in you.
Just my thoughts.
Cassandra
#YourLifeMattersToMe
Note: This was not an easy piece to write. I’m still working on me. Be gentle with you as you work on yourself and allow yourself to grow and be redirected. Be willing to tell ego to stand down as you show folk who you are. You will be glad you did.
What are YOU going to do despite/in spite of this?
Everything that can go wrong has.
What are YOU going to do despite/in spite of that?
ALL seems hopelessly lost.
What are YOU going to do despite/in spite of/in the middle of ALL this?
It can be hard knowing what to do when hard won’t stop being hard.
Still, it’s important to continue to work on things. Yesterday, I kept taking two steps forward while taking three steps back.
What worked for one platform would not work for another. I received enough funds to upgrade my software, so I could do what I REALLY wanted to do, instead of being limited by the free edition.
As soon as I put the funds on my cc, the finance/interest charges laughed at me and took it all.
I almost quit for the day. I didn’t. I sat with the disappointment. Then, I got on with it. I used what I had. I didn’t waste time on what might have been.
All is not lost. You are not lost. Even if you have taken the wrong path, beloveds, you can turn around. At least you are moving!
Keep going.
asking for A Friend, Cassandra
#YourLifeMattersToMe
Note: You can do this. You can survive that. Make the decision. Take action. The best thing for fear/doubt/apathy is to DO. Doing nothing, durinf
I have been enjoying YouTube channels from creators I have never thought about.
I have been learning how to be a yacht chef. I have been sneaking on airplanes with pilots.
I have been tagging along with folks who own vending machines and enjoyed countless hours watching the coin counter add up all the quarters!
I have watched a mother raise her 9 children. I have enjoyed watching single folk encouraging folk to enjoy being single and childfree.
I have watched folk run for 100 miles ON PURPOSE!😳🥰
I have watched folk from all walks of life. I have enjoyed folk from countless countries and cultures.
I feel sorry for those poor souls who are so broken they can only love and be comfortable with folk who look like, sound like and act like them. Smh.
Life is short, beloveds. Expand your view. Try things you would have never thought you would try in a hundred lifetimes!
The past few days I have been watching folk who have a passion for luxury watches. Goodness and gravy some of those watches are sooooooooooo expensive! They are beautiful, I must admit.
Keep expanding your world. It’s a hoot. Life is good. Even when it’s hard.
Be well.
asking for A Friend, Cassandra
#YourLifeMattersToMe
Note: Keep expanding your horizons. There is much to experience. Have an awesome time while you’re doing it. Enjoy your day. All of it. Be encouraged.
I am many things, mostly a human being. Doing my best to love my family, make an honest living, and care for the 🌎 world.
Why won’t you let me?
Why won’t you let me be me?
Why won’t you let me be?
Why must I be judged by the color of my skin?
Why must I be judged by my gender?
Why must I be judged by my looks?
Why must I be judged by my bank account?
Why must I be judged?
I’m just trying to love.
What/who are YOU?
asking for A Friend, Cassandra
#YourLifeMattersToMe
Note: I have given my all this week. The results seem miniscule. Still, I gave. I loved. I laughed. I struggled. I maintained. I grew. I lost. A full week. I am moving FORWARD. Ah, God. I am hungry to eat from the fruits of my labor. Universe, give me my bounty!
Who are you, beloveds? Keep being a light. Keep shining your light. Have an amazing weekend. You have tried. Let your try be enough. Get in your me time. Chair dance. 😂. Laugh. Be encouraged. I love you. So does He.
I challenge you to take five minutes per day to work on your dreams. You can add more time. But, start with five. Then, five more. Then…
You get my point.
This latest effort was not as rough as before. It buffers a bit but gets to the end. Yay!
I did not edit out the speaking mistakes. Not yet. I want to enjoy just enjoying my screw ups. Super healing for that part of me who used to be THE worst taskmaster.
I didn’t need to worry about others chastising me. I had that down pat. Yikes!
We live and we learn. Hopefully.
Learning, is a choice. Accepting we will make mistakes, is a choice. Learning, from said mistakes, is a choice.
I am looking forward to today’s goodies. It’s fantastic wondering what all The Universe has in store for ME. Ah, God. I’m ready.
God, here, is my try. Here, is my love. Here is today’s prayer for every tender heart:
Walk with those who are lonely. Answer those who call. Seek those in need. Give, according to our efforts. Give, because You promised You would. Soothe every aching heart. Give rest to the weary. Make a way where there has been none. Help us to look beyond our own needs. Help us to be a light. Know that I love You just cuz. Your Daughter, Cassandra. 🙏❤🥰
Have an amazing day, beloveds. The weekend is upon us. Get some rest.
Another masterpiece. I am particularly pleased the background music is not super loud.
I enjoyed my try. I forgot that I don’t know what I am doing. I forgot about not feeling well. I forgot about limitations.
I simply enjoyed the process. How simple.
Have an amazing day today, beloveds. Do ONE thing that will take you closer to your dream.
Take ONE step. A tiny step. A shaky step. Still, it will have been a step. Go!
We got thangs to do, beloveds. The world awaits to open before you.
Get after it.
asking for A Friend, Cassandra
#YourLifeMattersToMe
Note: Who knew that it would take FIVE HOURS TO POST FIVE MINUTES OF CONTENT!?
What the what the?!
What in the fresh hell?!
Heckamiah Jeremiah!
I enjoyed every frustrating, exasperating, maddening minute. ❤😎🥰🤗
What worked yesterday did NOT work today. Yesterday, I was able to embed the video here. Today, I had to fight just to get the Instagram link to post. Egads!
I hope you enjoy as much as I did. Be encouraged. Make it happen some kind of maddening way. Don’t let setbacks stop you from putting your effort out there.
Why Can't I Be Loud?! 