Lazy Saturday.

What a deliciously lazy Saturday!

They’re kind with us perfectly okay to let lazy run today. Today is that day.

It’s awesome important to have some you time. To let folks know that you need time to rest and relax. There will always be something pressing. There will always be someone who has a need.

Be sure to be a bit lazy at times. And selfish at times. You can’t get what you don’t have. Don’t let folk make you feel guilty because you’re taking time out for you. It’s necessary.

I was going to leave blogging alone for the day. But I promised myself that I would try to write everyday. Also, you are on my mind. And I was hoping that you were having a good day. So I had to check.

This is not just a blog to me. You are not just an anonymous like or click. Your life matters to me.

Be sure to get some rest today. Do something that will make you smile. I have been watching old movies. Drinking coffee. Eating chicken strips. Fantastic!

What will I do tomorrow? No idea. Tomorrow has not shown up yet. I have learned to live in th moment.

I think I shall go blog visiting. There are some fantastic writers. Be sure to enjoy some of them. Comment on what you like. It helps the creator. It also feels good to be appreciated. I have learned so much by all the bloggers. I learned also from those who comment. I often stealth read their blogs as well.

This has been a long few years for everyone. No matter what luck of life you come from. Financially. Weather wise. Conflicts everywhere.

Life is still good. Continue to move forward. Continue to try. Continue to give yourself some slack and room to grow and to feel.

Take care of yourself. I hear a cup of coffee calling me. Come join us if you please.

chilling,

Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: Keep going. Don’t stop believing. Dreams take time. Sometimes a very long time. Be sure to continue to live in the meantime. Remember you are loved and you are not alone. Love someone today. Starting with you. Starting with you.

Take out the trash, Cassandra: Stop bugging me.

The Universe: Take out the trash, Cassandra.

Me: Stop bugging me. I am going to take out the trash at lunch.

God: Speaking of bugs…Not saying. Just saying…

Me: *gasp*. You are right!

*Cassandra scowls thinking of that dastardly bug that had found a playground in the trash she kept putting off taking out*

Yikes!

Egads!

*Cassandra rushed the trash out at first light*

Moral of the story: Stop arguing with The Universe and take out the trash. Don’t wait for things to start bugging you.

Deal with your issues. Even the hard what in the hell is THIS type news/issues. I am practicing. Received some horrifying sad/upsetting what the hell news and I am processing it, still. Wow. Ow, God! Oh, God. πŸ˜₯

This was meant to be a light-hearted piece. Turns out, beloveds, life was not playing today. Wow. Ah, God. Why, dammit?!

Be encouraged. Love someone. Start with me. Could use a friend, today. Crap.

wanting to be upset with The Universe,

Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: Life can be hard. So what? Keep living. We are NOT alone. Geezzzzzz, God!

Hello Old-bies: An imp on my shoulders.

Morning newbies AND old-bies. Smh.

An imp woke me!

Jumped on my shoulder.

Pounded me, I’m telling you!

Tossed my phone, on top of me and shouted:

There!

Ha!

A gauntlet has been thrown!

I told said imp to shove off. Twasnt neither the night before Christmas, nor near time to awakened from slumber.

Yikes! was next, I’m afraid:

Yikes!: Yikes! There! Ha!

Me: *grumpily snatches the phone*:

There!

Omg!

Ha!

A gauntlet has been thrown!…*gasp*

*Cassandra, listening to her imp, devises all manner of ways to taunt, er, punish, er, welcome the old-bies after Britta had THE nerve to ask about a hello. Ha!*

God: Okay, so you DID carry on, to the newbies. And you did NOT, give a shout out to the old-bies.

Me: Okay, so, um, well, what had happened wuz…scuze me!

*Cassandra scrounges around in the Welcome bag to find a hello for old fogies who should ALREADY know they are loved and Yada Yada and how special they are and so on and so forth…*…*sigh*…….*mutters to self about how Britta should already know these things being as she is THE most fabulous fantastic wondrous wonderful woman in the whole of the earth*…lol.

Actually, beloveds, I really DID think about perhaps maybe I should throw some love to the old-bies as well. To make it up to all, I am fixing to put on some coffee β˜• and 🍡 and make some mini brownies and scones, whatever the world scones are and we can all get to know one another.

I love my loud family!….*hugs everyone*.

Have an amazing day. Life is short. Remember how very priceless and precious you are. Your heart is amazing. Your soul is capable of such good things. Your spirit is unmatched. The world is blessed to have you within it. Take care of yourself today.

By the way, I’m making my little imp do the dishes!

caring for newbies AND old-bies,

Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: I sooooooooooooooo enjoy folk. Yall are outstanding. Thanks for the chuckle, Britta. Much needed. I have been missing mom so much my heart hurts. Miss you mom…

It’s important to know your why.

It’s important to know your why.

YOUR why!

Why YOU do things.

Why things are important to YOU.

WHY you are doing what you are doing.

Why?

So you won’t be doing someone else’s why. That’s why!…lol.

Too often, beloveds, we do because it’s how it has always been done.

Or, because mom/dad/bro/sis/fam/friend did them.

Or, because the world says so.

Or, because those who secretly mean us no good, says so.

Or…

Enough with the or!

Again, why are you?

Why do you?

Why will you?

Why won’t you?

Why did you?

Why didn’t you?

I’m so thankful that God asked me why one day. I was always raised you don’t question God. You don’t question authority. You just do what you are told regardless.

Once I started asking myself why, I was able to process things better. I was able to make more informed choices. I was able to take ownership of my life. All of it. I stopped being a passive passenger when I came to my dreams. I was active with everybody else’s dream. When I came to my own dreams, I gave up too quickly on me.

Be sure to know your why. So you won’t get sucked into doing the why of others.

Don’t worry if other folks can’t understand your why. I didn’t start my blog for a long time. I was concerned about what folks would think about the words I wrote.

I was concerned they wouldn’t understand me. Or they would understand did not care for my writing style. Or with think that I was being this that and the other thing. Or…

You get the point. I had so many oars in the water I didn’t begin…πŸ˜‚.

I learned just to write. Period. I learned not to be hurt over the lack of likes. I am no longer fueled by likes or the lack of them. I like you. Period. That is enough for me.

Keep doing your why.

Why?

Because the world needs what only you can provide. Your voice matters. You matter. Your why matters.

Why?

Great question! You are asking the wrong person. Ask God and The Universe. The Universe awaits. Off with you!

living my why,

Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: Fight for your why. Never allow yourself to dismiss your why or your try!

The whole world opened before me: When I decided.

When I decided.

Ah, world.

You opened up the whole of you.

To me.

Just because:

I decided, world, to give you a chance.

I determined, to love you, world, whether you loved me back or not.

I desired, world, to get to know you and allow you to get to know, me.

I offered, the whole of me, to a world who cared not for even a little, of me.

No matter.

I offered/offer anyway.

Because…

I DECIDED.

I did not:

Wait for you, world, to decide.

Wait for you, world, to care for me.

In doing so, my heart opened, wide, and took you, world, all the way, inside.

Leaving me:

Full of:

Life.

Love.

Hope.

Peace.

Joy.

I don’t need you, world, to give me things. I just wish to be a part of you. The whole of you. I desire to enjoy you, world, for the whole of my life. I choose to interact with you, world, with dignity, loyalty, love and truth.

How you respond world, is completely up to you. You shall be the one missing out, on me, should you choose to ghost me or dismiss me.

Ah, God, thank You for allowing me the opportunity to be shunned, by the world. This has only taught me to love the world, more. Just as Jesus does. Just as You do. You love because You ARE Love.

Ah, world, how long can/will you resist me? No matter. I shall continue to love you and call out to you.

Be encouraged, world. Stop all your busyness and get on with the business of spreading care within you for the benefit of all.

Here because I care,

Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: I know this may seem like a weird piece. It is because I am. I don’t know why God has given me so much love for the world. He just did. I just do. I talk to folk, all over the world, in my heart. I yak to you ALL day. Every day. How deliciously ridiculous.

Be encouraged, beloveds. Life is truly shorter than any of us know and can understand. I make it my mission to talk to my small circle EVERY day. Wish I could yak at some of yall. Reach out sometime: ttnette37@yahoo.com. Take care.

Heart check Wednesday β™₯️: Welcome newbies!

Welcome!

Welcome!

Make yourself at home. This is YOUR spot. A safe space to dump, er, share:

Your day.

Your sad.

Your mad.

Your lazy.

Your what in the fresh hell is this.

Your amazing.

Basically…YOU!

Tada!

There is only ONE you, in the whole of the land. Fortunately, for you, beloveds, there is only one me.πŸ˜„. I do have a twin, my wombie, but she is another story for another day. Sorry sis…

I just noticed our tribe, our posse, our blog fam had grown, just a smidge. Just wanted to say hey and let you know this ain’t yo mama’s blog!

You shall receive a daily dose of:

Love.

Laughs.

Boot to the rear, as needed.

And a whole lotta what the world was that?!

Kick off your shoes, meander through the archives, have a snack and remember:

You are loved. You are NOT alone. Keep on being… YOU

Be encouraged. Take a breath. Take your time. Let me know your thoughts. Don’t be so shy. Love someone. Starting with you.

here,

Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: πŸ€—πŸ₯°β™₯️😁

Real talk: Leave trouble(s) in the shower.

Real talk: Leave trouble(s) in the shower.

Trouble was acting a fool trying to cause holy havoc in my life. Ha! I do NOT have time for trouble to be making all this trouble.

In times past, I would have been all up in my feelings. I would have fussed with God. I would have yelled at The Universe. I would have wanted to tell Life to kick rocks!

I would have pouted, shouted and done EVERYTHING except for what was needed:

Leave trouble(s) in the shower!

That’s what I did, this morning. I drowned my sorrows, in the midst of some lovely soap suds. I sang, horribly, as I squished trouble, down the drain. I tapped my foot, all upside trouble’s head and told it to get gone. I got thangs to do.

I got about being about it. I did some thangs. I laughed. I worked. Hard. I worked hard hard. Til hard said β€˜hey’ and β€˜ow’. Told hard to leave me be, then or get used to me kicking hard all upside it’s hide.

Life is short.

Yea, tough times happen. Life can be terribly hard. So what? Don’t fall for the world’s feedback to run from hard as fast as you can. The ONLY way to learn, is to try. Fail. Try. Fail. Try. Fail. Try. Succeed kinda/sorta. Try. Rinse. Repeat. Simple.

Easy?

No.

So what?

Get on with living. You have things to do. You have dreams to chase down. You have laughs to have. You have folk to love and to hold. You have folks who are waiting to love you. Get going.

going with you,

Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: What you doing here, beloveds? You are supposed to be spectacularly failing at something, remember? By the by, your dreams are NOT going to knock on your door and say β€˜here’. If they do, send mine for me, would you? Asking for A Friend.

Don’t borrow trouble.

I am in a new training. Hard. Yet, I made it much harder, listening to all the tales of woe, provided by folks who had experienced the training. By the time they were done, I was done. Ready to pack up and head for the hills.

But, I told myself I would NOT allow myself to be bothered by what had happened in PAST trainings. I took ownership of THIS training and had a nice talking to to ME. I told myself:

You got this.

You CAN.

You WILL.

Ask for help.

Stay engaged.

Be a source of support for others.

Laugh.

Enjoy your day. ALL of it.

Then, I went ahead and enjoyed the day I ordered up!

Life is short, beloveds. Don’t go borrowing other folk trouble. Leave THEIR mess with them. We got thangs to do, right?

If you have some hard coming up, do the best you can to manage your ATTITUDE so your ALITITUDE will be where it needs to be. Then, embrace/enjoy the hard. The hard is making us into the outstandingly amazing people we are!

In the meantime, love someone. Start with you. Pass on the savings to as many hearts as you can. Folk are hurting but are too afraid to reach out. Be encouraged.

Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Real talk: Your why is YOUR why.

Your why is your why.

Your why is not my why.

Do you.

Live the life your heart wants to live.

The world and people will not always agree with your choices. That’s okay. Keep on being you.

Respect that folks care about you. Let them know you appreciate them and keep living your life. It’s yours.

You can live your parent’s lives. It’s not your fault that they don’t have the skills that you have. It’s not your fault that you don’t want to walk. The path that your parents walk or people in your family have walked.

Doesn’t mean you don’t respect the love them. It just means that’s not what you have chosen to do.

It’s okay to want to live a different way. It’s okay to want to experience another culture. It’s o k to want to move completely away from what those close to you have done.

You are, why is YOUR why.

Why?

Because life would be boring if we all did the same thing and thought the same way and lived the same life.

It’s your time.

Why?

Great question!

Keep asking why.

asking with you,

Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: Be good to you today. I woke up with a case of the I don’t wannu. I tossed it in the shower and kept it moving. You are loved. You are NOT alone. Keep on being… YOU

55: Tick. Tick. Boom.

Tick.

Tick.

Boom!

What the what the…??

!!

I have been scraping my heart guts off the floor.

Feelings are everywhere!

Feelings of:

Loss.

Gain.

Lack.

Plenty.

Makes no sense these feels of mine. They have confabbed. They have conspired. Enemies, it appears, have become friends.

Fresh hell!

I’m supposed to:

Have it together.

The only things I have together are these chicken strips and french 🍟 fries I have been comfort eating with!

Ah, 55, why are you blowing my cover?

Go away now. Let me hide. I don’t know if I am ready for you. I talk a good game, but I don’t know if I am ready to live this new/big life I have been seeking.

Let me remain small! I can hide beneath small. There are no expectations there. From me. From anyone.

Okay, 55.

I give up.

Be gentle with me.

naked but not ashamed,

Cassandra

#YourLifeMattersToMe

Note: Change is scary. Change is necessary. Is we all change. Too many are fighting to keep things the same. Seize these moments of change. They are changing you in new and exciting ways.

It used to be an uncomfortable while life changes around you and in you. I have learned to be comfortable while being uncomfortable. I no longer look for results. I accept what happens after I try. As long as I did my best I am good with that. I am good with me.

All we can do is all we can do. Present your best self. Some will receive you. Others may reject you. That’s not your worry. That’s not your fault. Be okay with the result of your try.

Remember that you take your steps with The Universe. You don’t walk alone. You don’t try alone. Your voice is necessary. Let your voice be heard. Someone has been waiting to hear your voice their whole life.

You don’t need a cheering crowd to enjoy your game. Enjoy every moment. Win or lose. I no longer care if I get a trophy or not. I no longer need a cheering crowd. I no longer worry about winning or losing. I just want to try and see what happens. I just want to see what I can do. I want to see how many mistakes I can make.

What are you still doing here, beloveds?! Get going. We got thangs to do. Love somebody starting with you.

Tell somebody that they are loved and not alone.