Grief has pain turned all the way up.
It has been hard to hear joy. It has been hard to feel anything but pain.
Even my ow is saying ow!
My heart goes to bed hurting. It wakes up howling. Neither of us feels like doing yet another pain-filled day. Crimeny!
Pain, having compassion for me, sidled up and reminded me of something.
I smiled. I got on with my day, pain in tow.
Pain and I had coffee. We watched YouTube. We had more coffee. We argued over the remote. I won.
I just stopped by to tell someone the same something that set me free a long time ago:
You are NOT your pain.
Yea, pain can be a bully and yells a lot. Still, pain can be a friend as it points to where healing needs to take place.
Pain also accompanies healing as it takes place, during the surgery, in the recovery room.
Pain can often act as a stop sign, a truth teller, a litigator.
The trick is in knowing how to process and deal with pain.
We are NOT our pain. We do NOT have to accept pain because it’s what we have become used to.
Pain is never meant to stay. Pain was never meant to be permanent.
Don’t let pain have the last word. Don’t even let pain be in charge. Locate the source of it. Remove yourself from it, if need be.
Stop using the pain to punish yourself. If you are doing dumb things, that are causing pain to kick your hiney, stop doing the dumb thing. Then, forgive yourself and keep it moving.
Get away from painful relationships. Love is NOT pain. Love does NOT have to hurt. Love is NOT filled with thorns. Hurt PEOPLE hurt people.
You SHALL overcome. You SHALL find the way.
In the meantime, go on ahead and toss pain into the shower. Get out the shower and make it do what it do with what you have to do it with. 🤣
It feels good to laugh again. If only on these blog pages.
Have an amazing today.
asking for A Friend,
Cassandra
#YourLifeMattersToMe
Note: We got this.
One step.
One step.
One step.
You are loved.
You are NOT alone.
Keep on being…YOU!
- BELOVEDS, YOU CAN HAVE MY FLOWERS. I DON’T NEED THEM ANYMORE.
- Forgive them, Cassandra, God said to me
- Still In Love
- REAL TALK: DESPISE NOT SMALL BEGINNINGS, BELOVEDS.👘🦺🥾👟🥿👞🩴👢🩰👡⛑️🔌🕯️🔎🖌️🖋️📢
- IT ME!
Why Can't I Be Loud?! 